As a conjunct to this thread about whether or not lesbians enjoy penetration, let me ask the following please:
Is anal sex a cornerstone for gay sex amongst males? I have no issues with homosexuality; I’ve always wondered whether or not this is the de facto standard though.
I’m just curious because it would seem to me that there are gentler and easier ways to enjoy gay sex without anal penetration, which to me seems harsh and masochistic.
Not a gay male, but it is my understanding that a pretty large minority of gay couples don’t engage in anal sex at all. But I don’t think anal sex is necessarily harsh or masochistic, if you do it right.
Neither I nor my partner do anal. Without getting too graphic, there’s a lot of mutual masturbation, and a little bit of oral. Mostly we just cuddle, though.
Then what about Lesbians? Also, I should point out that the OP called anal “harsh and masochistic,” so I’m not alone in being squirmish on this, it seems…
In my experience, lots do enjoy it, lots don’t. Of those who do enjoy it, lots are tops and lots are bottoms, and a rather smaller number (unfortunately in my view) are versatile like me (i.e., I like it both ways, in the same session if possible, or sometimes just one or the other depending on my mood; kind of like being bi-sexual, maybe). Contrary to Markxxx, my experience has been that there is a pretty good balance between tops and bottoms. But I’ve been off the market for 20 years, so maybe things have changed.
Roddy
I note bemusedly a brother in law of a good friend of mine is in the ‘hetero but enjoys anal sex’ category.
During a home remodeling project for them, my friend encountered a rather exotic appliance, I believe they are referred to as a ‘strap on’, and his sister explained (demurely) what it was and to what ends they employed it.
Hell, most men enjoy anal sex period, whether gay or straight. Even if you’re only talking about receptive anal, many straight men who aren’t prudes realize that we have this thing called the prostate, and that’s why God invented strap-ons.