This may sound weird but may I suggest a ritual grieving? You realize that your fantasy of a relationship must die, so find some way to acknowledge its passing. Let your sorrow burn away your obsession.
In the past when I have had a particularly overwhelming crush that I needed to end, I did this.
Kunimitsu-
I don’t know that I could have added much to this thread in the first place, and what with all that’s been said already I’m quite sure that I have nothing left to offer, except that I wanted to say that I quite admire the way you’re dealing with PharmBoy. Such displays of level headedness are rare, at least to my eyes, and I find it very refreshing to see such tolerance, patience and rational calm coming from someone.
Apologies for the hijack; I just thought that needed to be said. That done, I wish you all the best results with your dilemma, regardless of what path you choose.
Kunimitsu, this will sound silly, but you should try to find episodes from the first season of Dawson’s Creek. (I said it’d sound silly, didn’t I?) The show presents what is probably the best case senereo of a teacher-student involvement. The character, also 15, confessed his interest in his teacher, and she responses favorably. Eventually even though they kept things “discreet” he slipped up and told his best friend, and someone overheard. The kid said he lied to keep the teacher out of jail, but she had to resign, and left town because of the talk. Eventually he gets over it and finds someone his own age.
I think you should watch it to see that you’re not the only one who has this sort of feeling, and a plausable outcome of what could happen in the best of situations. I also just love the show 
Oh great, a possibly gay male gym teacher. What are the odds? Ask him where he hangs out. This should give you a clue whether he is gay or not by whether he chooses gay hang outs or straight ones.
Frankly, this is a really dangerous situation & instead of hanging out with him, you should hang out with a counselor.
All right, so I’m a hetero girl, but I’ve got plenty of experience in getting over guys.
Yes, that will make a difference. Do everything you can not to see this guy. At least for a couple of weeks. Surround yourself with other friends, and get yourself busy doing things you enjoy. Don’t give yourself time to mope around about him. Realize that, while the possiblilty may exist that he would have feelings for you, that if he acted on those feelings, he wouldn’t deserve any of your adoration. I wrote out pro and con lists about one guy I was having a hard time getting over. It helped. Keep talking to us nice people at the SDMB about it since you can’t really talk to anyone at home.
You will survive this. There will be someone else who is deserving of your attention. Just wait till you get to college. College guys… sigh
Transfer to a new school.
Also, read about Mary Kay Letourneau. As if you haven’t already. Just drop her name into any search engine. Youll see what happens to a teacher who does this route.
e.g. http://law.about.com/newsissues/law/library/weekly/aa111797.htm
Tattv, I am going to try that. Scapegoat But going the long route is ummm…a habit now. I like going there. – As you can see that alone is hard.
Honestly, I don’t think I would pursue the teacher if I had an opportunity to anymore. You guys really helped out.
I hate to be a pile of trouble and I could predict some of you may be annoyed, but…should I go back with my ex? We’re friends…and since the break up (which we both sort of regretted) he wants to get back together again. I think I strongly feel for him again…but it wouldn’t be fair for him because that damn teacher is on my mind.
I think I will. Tonight. It’s either that or 4 more years of emotional repression (because I won’t come out in high school). So chances are, this may be the only person that I come across that really cares for me. It’s still difficult having a boyfriend no one knows about.
Yeah, I do love this guy. I’ll try to patch things up tonight. He cares about me – and as far as I’m concerned the teacher cares jackshit about me.
This isn’t an impulsive choice too, I thought about it for a while now.
Another suggestion. I had a debilitating crush when I was 15/16. Long story short, I reached a point where I knew I had to get over it before I destroyed my GPA. It sounds like you only have a physical attraction to this person, not an emotional connection, so try this:
Don’t think about how he looks with his public face on. Picture him taking a big dump, then walking away leaving the bathroom in a shambles with moldy towels on the floor and scum on the mirror. Envision his kitchen: crusted pots on the stove, scuzzy water in the sink. He rinses a grimy saucepan, dumps in a can of mushroom soup, boils it, plops it on some instant rice and takes it into the living room. While flopped on the couch watching line-dancing on TNN, he absently picks lint out of his butt and kicks the cat that tries to climb up on him. After 6 or 8 Meisterbraus, he stumbles off to bed in his raggedy sweats to peruse Hustler for a few minutes before zonking out…
Keep that image in your mind whenever you see him or a thought of him presents itself. And who knows…maybe he really is like that.