I teach English conversation in Japan, and one of my students is an adolescent boy I’ll call “Yoshi”.
Yoshi has been studying English for several years, but was considered something of a problem student due to his reluctance to speak. He wasn’t shy so much as sullen. Yoshi has private lessons so there are no other students in his class with him. His weak spots are speaking and reading, so his classes consist mostly of conversation and oral reading. The teacher I replaced told me that he was almost never willing to say anything on his own, and that she had to constantly ask him questions to force him to speak. His usual response was “So-so”, which summed up his feelings on most subjects.
This behavior continued for several weeks after I became his teacher, but I did my best to be friendly and find out what he was interested in and gradually Yoshi began to be more chatty. I still have to introduce new conversational topics, but he talks much more and remembers the things I say to him – I know, because he brings it up later, mostly to make fun of me. He teases me constantly about my height, love of peanut butter, and inability to read kanji.
The other teachers at my school have only one explanation for this amazing transformation…“He’s in love with you!”
Of course, I would prefer to believe that I’m simply a great teacher. Besides, Yoshi is a little boy. He’s only 14!
Wait a minute. 14?
It’s been nearly a decade since I was 14, but I am pretty sure I remember what 14-year-old boys thought about all the time.
But Yoshi’s never alluded to any interest in girls at all. He’s a slightly geeky type who plays chess and doesn’t seem to really like anything except The Lord of the Rings (the books, not the movies, which he has pronounced merely “so-so”).
Wait a minute. In my college days, I was affectionately known as “The Queen of the Geeks”. I was president of the freakin’ Science-Fiction and Fantasy Club! I’m emitting a constant stream of geek pheremones!
Damn. Maybe the kid does have a crush on me.
I’m sure this is a common enough situation for people who teach teenagers, and I know there are plenty of Doper teachers out there. So, what do you do in such a situation? I mean, obviously if he tried to put the move on me I’d put an end to that right quick, but I don’t think that’s likely. I’m more concerned about making sure that I neither hurt the poor boy’s feelings nor encourage him to think of me in a non-academic way.