A Spinoff the the Loved One's Love/Trust vs. 10,000 Cancer Deaths Thread

In light of the general trend of answers in that thread, I’ve created an arguably more mundane and realistic (especially for the board members who do not believe in the supernatural) scenario.

Suppose more or less convincing evidence came into your hands that the person you love the most in your life has committed murder in the past. When you confront him/her with that evidence he/she blandly admits that they have committed pre-mediated first degree murder in the past and while they will not do it again they aren’t particularly sorry for it either. Would you report him/her to the police and/or other proper authorities.

Of course. If that’s who they were then I would no longer love them.

Those revelations would call into question what I had thought to be an honest love; so I wouldn’t be acting against a self-interest by reporting them.

There are moral reasons to commit pre-meditated murder. If she has one, I’d keep her secret.

Not if her motives fit with the person I love
revenge for Rape etc… , It might change my relationship with her

How is this a spin-off?

I gotta admit, it depends on who they’d killed.

I mean, there’s a difference between “I killed him because he was a drug-dealing rapist terrorist” and “I killed a five year old girl because I wanted to see what it felt like.”

Yeah, we’ll talk.

Hey, maybe he could help me with… never mind!

Yes, I would turn him in.

Yes, it would change our relationship.

Would the spousal privilege apply in something like this? I would, but they could bar me from testifying about it if so.

Hm. This is a more complicated question than I first thought.

On the one hand, I’d be surprised if Imp had offed someone, as that’s not her style. That said, it’s certainly within what I would model as a possible action, she’s a trained martial artist, she’s been in life-and-death situations, and in the right circumstances, I could certainly see her killing someone*.

However, I’d be surprised that she found it necessary, and that she was unable to resolve the situation another way. Also, it makes no sense that she allowed evidence to continue to exist that I could uncover. If she convinced me it was her only course of action at the time, I might well not mention it again.
*For instance, don’t menace the kids.

A more interesting question might be: in the right circumstances, can you see your significant other / spouse / love of your life murdering someone at all?

+1
It would all depend on who it was and the reasons. If it was to protect her children or to just rid the world of a sleeze ball, I probably would be ok with it. If it was a former husband with a large insurance policy…well…

This is a spinoff from the other thread in much the same way that In the Heat of the Night was a spinoff from All In The Family.

It’s gonna depend on whom she killed. But granting that I believe that the killing was justified though illegal …

I will not under any circumstances turn in my wife to the police. If I believed that she was going to be better off turning HERSELF into the police, I would encourage her to do so, but I would also support her emotionally during the process and pay for her defense as much as I am able, even if it means bankruptcy.

If I am convinced that she is better off turning herself in (which seems unlikely), I would hope I’d have the balls to do what a husband should and go on the lam with her if necessary.

And before you ask, this also applies to treason. Not to rape. though.

This.

She didn’t turn me in, so I wouldn’t do it to her.

Of course I would.

It’s up to the courts to decide whether she was justified/had good reasons/whatever. But my wife know my stance on violence, so she shouldn’t expect any different when she admits something like this to me.

It’d be different if I lived somewhere that had the death penalty. Then I’d cover for her even if she admitted doing in her granny for laughs one Christmas…

I can’t see turning a loved one in to the police. I might though, it depends on the circumstances. I’ve never directly killed anyone but I have done mental exercises trying to determine could I murder someone and under what circumstances. Sadly, again in a hypothetical situation, it took surprisingly little to push me in that direction. I would hope I’d act differently in a real situation.

Now if they’d murdered 10,000 people all bets are off.

  • I worked on weapons systems that were used in combat in the Marines so I’m fairly certain that I’ve indirectly killed people.

Guess who will not be doing the dishes ever again? :smiley:

Don’t cross her, man! :eek:

I sincerely doubt I would ever help anyone cover up a significant crime. People shouldn’t run to me to get hidden from the police.