So he asked for my number exactly one week ago and hasn’t called. I have seen him around since and he is very flirty and friendly but says he is very busy this week. Should I stop expecting him to call? How many days before you would give up?
A week seems a bit long to wait, but he has told you he’s really busy. Assuming this is true, since I have no reason not to, I’d say you ought to see about calling him. Do you have or can you get his number?
There is no set time period. None. Could be minutes, could be years.
It’s one of those things that you just learn to stop worrying about. Absolutely, positively don’t give it a second thought. Get on with your life. You will be much, much happier.
For what my opinion’s worth: those are two different questions. Should you stop expecting him to call? Yes, definitely. Spending more than a week in anticipation is just bad for you. As ftg said, get on with your life. But that’s not necessarily the same thing as “giving up.” He may call; he may not. You may eventually end up blissfully happy with each other; you may never see him again. All you have to do is try to relax and stop waiting by the phone.
If you’re really into the guy, go with your gut instinct and do what whiterabbit suggested. Try to get his number and give him a call. If you’ve seen him around, stop him next time you see him and ask for his number. There’s absolutely nothing wrong or stalker-ish about being honest and showing interest in a guy if you’re into him. Take control of the situation. If he does get wigged out about it, and he’s only allowed to call you, then he’s got control issues and you’re better off without him.
A week is long. Three days is about right - if he doesn’t see you again in the meantime. OTOH it sounds like you run into him during your day-to-day, so it actually hasn’t been a week since he spoke to you. Like the others say get on with your life, but if he calls be pleasantly surprised.
Yeah, I didn’t mean to imply that after another week you should just forget the whole idea. This isn’t high school. And you’ve seen him, so it’s not like he’s avoiding you, which is why I suggested you calling him.
Heck, I started my last (only so far, though there are hints that Current Guy might be another one) major relationship by a) asking to exchange phone numbers and b) three days later calling and asking him out.
‘acceptable’ time? I dont know. Many guys (and some girls) like to pretend they have more important things to do so they can keep the other person thinking about them and set their stake in your mind (seems to be working, does it not Mr Jim?). 3-5 days is usually the time frame most people seem to recommend on this subject. If he has gone 7 days i dont know. maybe he truly is busy.
If i gave a woman my number and she played this game on me (putting off calling for 3-5 days to screw with me) i’d probably drop her before our first date. How demeaning to both of us, trying to manipulate me into liking you like that.
Hetero guy checking in. If he hasn’t called in over a week and he isn’t out of town, odds are he doesn’t like you that much. Usually the best time to ask someone out is by the following Weds. Once you get into Thurs-Sat he is probably into his regular going out routine with his friends.
I met a guy at work. He got my number. I saw him every day and I asked him out a number of times, but it took him two weeks to call and ask me out.
We’ve been together for more than two years and are madly in love.
It turned out he didn’t have any money to take me out with, so he waited until payday.
