Accidental spoiling of stranger's clothes - cash compensation immediately assumed?

This is based on an occurrence I witnessed some 15 years ago on the train, and was thinking about today.

The scene: A double decker Metra railcar out of downtown Chicago toward the northern suburbs. On the upper deck, a college-age guy with a styrofoam cup, that held a small amount of some beverage. On the bottom deck right below him, a 30-something woman with two smallish children, a boy and a girl. The guy’s cup slips somehow and falls into the lower-level aisle, causing some splash that soiled the girl’s shirt.

The guy looked over and saw that his slip was not without consequence. He said “sorry” and proceeded to take a bill out of his wallet (didn’t see how much) and extended his arm down to hand it off. The mother said “thank you” and accepted the bill. No further words were exchange and there was no further interaction. From memory, I don’t think they even made eye contact. I have no idea whether it’s material to the event, but the upper-level guy and the lower-level family were of different races.

To this day I wonder what I witnessed. At first I had the sense that it was a way to avoid addressing the event, almost disrespectful to the family–as if to say “Here’s a fiver, get lost”. But perhaps it wasn’t so sinister? Was it naturally expected that the spiller would pay some amount of cash to cover cleaning expense or otherwise compensate the outcome of his “drinking problem”, and no specific acknowledgement or conversation was required? Was there anything to the fact that the mother said “thank you” without mentioning the underlying event at all?

What do you think?

Most of the time it’s a “send me the dry cleaning bill” scenario unless the garment is ruined.

Is it wrong that if I spilled something on someone, paying them off would never ever cross my mind?

I’d apologize profusely, but that’d be it.

Depends on what you spill it on. If you spill it on a Tshirt, no biggie. If you spill it on a $300 suit, maybe. :smiley:

~Tasha

As a commuter of many years, that’s pretty much SOP from what I’ve witnessed.

If I slobbed on someone I would assume that I was paying the cleaning bill.

No sense in someone else incuring an expense because I’m a clumsy oaf.

I think the guy’s a class act. Less so if he’d followed up by saying “And how much for the child??”