I FOUND A SITE!!!
You wanted a site to prove that records are altered.
Here you go!
Ok I have thought about it.
From a legal standpoint maybe a person doesn’t have the right to obtain another person’s medical history, without an order from a Court.
From an ethics/morals standpoint, it’s reprehensible that any family member would withhold valuable medical information from another relative — nevertheless, they are within their rights to do so…as unfair and irresponsible as that may seem.
Perhaps there SHOULD be a law about giving genetically
relevant medical information to your offspring. I
personally don’t see any ethical reason to withold it.
I’m an adoptee - my parents got me three days after I was born.
I can’t say I’ve ever really had fantasies about reuniting with my birth mother or birth father - and honestly, I think I would be a little freaked out if someone claiming to be my birth mom or birth dad just suddenly appeared on my doorstep.
As far as seeing my birth parents’ medical records? Eh, not a huge concern. I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease when I was 23 (I’m 31 now), and though there are some clues that it might be genetic in nature, I don’t really see how my reaction to getting the disease would have been any different for knowing that ‘Uncle Fred’ had it, too.
As far as any other medical problem that might run in my birth family? I don’t really care. Medical records need to be kept private for a reason, and I support that right to privacy. I also support the right of my birth mother to have given me up without worrying whether I’m going to show up on her doorstep x many years later. For all I know, she has gotten married, has a family, and has never told her family she gave a child up for adoption. In my opinion, it’s not my place to disrupt whatever life she may have now.
If folks want to register on an adoption finder website, then splendid. Any possible laws getting passed requiring the identity of the birth parents to revealed at whatever age is deemed appropriate just does not sit right with me.
Vevila I can see it from both points of view.
Thanks for your thoughts.
What exactly are you preserving?
I was adopted by my father. The man who is biologically linked to me and gave me up is nothing to me…I haven’t seen him since I was 4. If he were to show up now (I’m 29), I would be offended. He chose not to be responsible for me when I was dependent, and to want to start a relationship now that I’m independent is absurd. There is nothing to “preserve”, because I don’t know him. Parents are those people who actually raise their children.
Side note: I realize that my situation is different from traditional adopted children, in that, my mom is my biological mother. I can’t totally relate to those who have been adopted by both parents, but I know how I feel about my dad. He didn’t have to love me, but he did.
It’s true that no one is entitled to their families’ medical records. But it’s also true that non-adoptees have the ability and the right to ask their family members for the information. While your right to keep your medical records private certainly outweighs anyone else’s desire to see them , I am not so sure that the adoptive and/or biological parents’ desire for secrecy should outweigh the adoptee’s desire to know who to ask.
Every one should have access to their
government held records of identity upon majority. If BIO MOM & DAD want nothing to do with the adult adoptee, then they can tell them as much if the adult adoptee contacts them. The End.
I have ex-boyfriends and past associates I never want to see or hear from again, but I don’t expect the government to monitor whether they’re looking for me, or create special statutes regarding ex-boyfriends who have to sign
on to a special state-run registry if they want to contact me.
We’re talking about adults here, adult adoptees who access their records, adult birth parents who can tell other people they don’t want to be bothered. Again and again, adoption is treated as if it were so special that normal behaviors and guarantees of safety and privacy aren’t good enough, we need special
rights for birthparents, the right to alter permanently another person’s state-held records of identity. Bullcrap!
For or against adoption? What kind of question is that? How can someone be against adoption? I can’t imagine every placing my own child up for adoption. This may be because I have never been at a place in my life where I couldn’t have cared for a child if necessary. I can imagine raising someone else’s child as my own and my husband and I have discussed adopting a child (not a baby) at some point in the future.
I would probably help my adopted child find his/her birth parents. Assuming of course that it wouldn’t be harmful to the child. I think that meeting between birthparents and adopted children can be a good thing. I just don’t think that it should be forced on either party.
I say birth certificates are the property of the state because they are required by the state, issued by the state and held by the state. It makes more sense that a birth certificate is owned by the state then the individual.
Your cite isn’t really very convincing. It is just more adoptees saying that their records have been changed. It isn’t evidence that any state actually has laws that allow it.
My aunt put a child up for a closed adoption 40 years ago. Eventually, the law allowed the child to look her up. He did so for the sole purpose of finding out if there were any family medical conditions he should be aware of (he and his wife were about to start having kids).
If the law hadn’t changed, he’d have been out of luck.
This site merely repeats the claims you made – that is, it repeats stories told by others. Not once is there a reference to a law or regulation that permits the alteration of records.
In other words, suppose I sought to prove your point on a different message board, and, as a cite, linked to your claims here. Would that be valid?