SO! After six and a half years together, Mr. Armadillo and I were married on Friday.
We had the first brutal fight of the marriage, and the weekend is hardly over. He’s asleep and I’m still trying to get rid of enough anger to get into bed… I mean, it’s not a topic I see as ending the relationship, and he clearly doesn’t feel like he did anything wrong, so while it’s something that hurt me a whole hell of a lot, I’m trying to convince myself to let go of my anger.
I’m still angry and hurt and embarrased, but it’s not an issue that threatens my physical or emotional health or safety, so I’m trying very hard to look at the big picture and get over it already. Someone once told me that in marriage or parenting, you should pick your battles carefully, only fight for the things that truly matter, and let the other stuff slide. I’m trying hard.
Um, so, in that light, please give us your best advice for a strong and happy marriage*.
*a word which here means any mutually committed union, sexual orientation or legal status thereof completely irrelevant.