As Edison once said:
“Genius is 10% inspiration and 90% perspiration.”
You must practice like a dog. You want to get to the point when bar chords are as easy as open string fretting. Make sure to have specific songs to work your left pinkey on the fingerboard.
Consider using light to medium light strings only, especially if you are finger picking. Avoid using a really thick flatpick. I recommend no more than a .070 mm pick thickness. Learn to both fingerpick and flatpick in the long run. However, most electrics do not permit easy finger picking.
As to your electric effects, get a sustain pedal. Your playing will become a lot more fluid when you are able to extend your notes. Also learn to set your delay in time with your music for some fun. Careful use of reverb; use enough for it to make a difference but not dominate the signal.
Keep your guitar’s output turned up full and modify the tone at the amp unless you are going for specific mid-range effects from the pick ups themselves. Record some of what you play and listen to it so that you can assess your progress and sore points.
BUY A TUNER! They pay for themselves instantly in terms of less suffering to all involved. Always tune your guitar switched to the “bridge” (farthest back) pick up position. It allows you to hear the maximum number of overtones. When you tune your strings, if you pass the correct frequency, you must loosen the string to below the desired pitch and “walk” or tighten the string back up to the exact tension and tuning. A loosened string’s tension will slip more easily and take you off pitch in the middle of a song.
For a “Chunky” or “Crunchy” and darker sort of tone, use your forward-most pick up. For screaming metal and distortion work use your bridge position pick up. When trying to duplicate the sound of an acoustic guitar, use the middle pick up (if you have one). Avoid combining pick ups as you learn to play (if you have a three or five way selector switch). It is better to develop clear tone styles before experimenting a lot.
The hard part is playing with enough volume to get any satisfaction. Cranking on a four by twelve cabinet is the cat’s pajamas. My only problem is only being able to turn up my amp to 20% of it’s output before I’m shaking things off of shelves.
If you are using a small practice amp, be sure not overdrive a semiconductor amp’s output as you will suffer distinct clipping of your top-end frequencies. Tubes roll off their high frequency performance a lot more evenly at the top-end of their output and sound so much better for that reason. Avoid the use of excessive special effects. This is known as the “kitchen sink” effect and results in a muddy tone quality.
Get a few tunes down to where you can play through them on a consistent basis. Always play them the same way so as to use them as “standards” by which to judge your progress. Learn how to improvise while you play as well. This is much more difficult but twice as rewarding as just playing from a script.
Best wishes.