Mommy, this place is scaring me. Can we go home now? :eek:
Hey, by the way, I just saw a picture of your wife from your web site. I think she’s a hot tamale, too! Congrats on your marriage!
We can post and view pictures on this site? How?
No, I think he just clicked on the “WWW” link below my post and visited my personal website (where I have a picture of my wife).
Barry
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You can’t post pictures to this site, but you can link to pictures from this site. Click on me! as an example. Also, godzillatemple’s wife’s picture was on his own web site.
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Originally posted by Artemius
It is interesting, however, that arranged marriages between 2 people that know little of each other beforehand have the same divorce rates as the traditional method. Wonder why that is? Anybody?
It could be that the culture that practices arranged marriage is the same culture for which divorce is a major taboo. So even though one might think that arranged marriages would have a higher failure rate because the people don’t know each other (or don’t know if they like each other), the wedded are more likely to stay together because separating is just not an option. I had a long-term boyfriend once whose parents had an arranged marriage. I asked if he was afraid they would ever divorce, and he said that would NEVER happen because their culture just wouldn’t allow it.
In some cases/countries, it could also be because of the woman’s meager earning power. Though it was certainly not the case in my ex-boyfriend’s parents situation.
Godzallatemple wrote:
<<In today’s “modern” society, so much emphasis is placed on romantic love and sexual compatibilty that I think a lot of marriages fail because those things eventually fade and the people involved never bothered to develop a stronger bond.>>
IMO I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. Time after time I’ve seen women say how they are looking for romance and their knight in shining armour. Don’t they realize they are setting themselves up for future disappointment. A guy might be able to project that role for x amount of time but eventually he will not be able to maintain the charade. It’s like they are looking for perfection which, as we all know, doesn’t exist. Then they become disappointed/disallusioned. that’s my .02 worth
Godzallatemple wrote:
<<In today’s “modern” society, so much emphasis is placed on romantic love and sexual compatibilty that I think a lot of marriages fail because those things eventually fade and the people involved never bothered to develop a stronger bond.>>
IMO I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. Time after time I’ve seen women say how they are looking for romance and their knight in shining armour. Don’t they realize they are setting themselves up for future disappointment. A guy might be able to project that role for x amount of time but eventually he will not be able to maintain the charade. It’s like they are looking for perfection which, as we all know, doesn’t exist. Then they become disappointed/disallusioned. And I find it puzzling while they say what they are looking for I don’t see what they are offering in return.
IMO, someone who is capable, honest, loving, resonsible, supportive and physically attractive to me is what’s important. Oops, sorry for getting off topic.
On the contrary. I knew the camera was going, and managed to snag a copy of the movie to show to my friends and relatives (um, and BTW, that substantial withdrawal from our joint checking was to buy them all sunglasses to protect their delicate retinas from the glare of your bare ass during the screening–hope you don’t mind ;)). And yeah, they think I’m “settling” because I failed to snag a Morehouse/Meharry-educated Black doctor . . . but give them time. Eventually their eyes will adjust, and they’ll see why I love you . . .
. . . for your superior dancing skills.
Man, I know exactly what’s going on here.
I’m only 21 years old. I’m tall (six foot one), have green eyes, in good shape (go to the gym a lot, do hundreds of sit-ups per day, lift weights), not at all ugly, smart, have a lot of friends, etc.
And I’m absolutely terrified I’m going to be alone for my whole life.
OTA 56x: Welcome to the SDMB!
Would it help at all if I said you were way too young to worry about being alone for the rest of your life? I’m not guaranteeing that you won’t be, but maybe you should give it, oh, 10 or 15 years before you start getting really depressed.
The only thing I regret about my relationship with my wife is that I didn’t meet her 10 years ago. However, things are so wonderful now that I can honestly say it was worth the wait.
Is there anything in particular that makes you think this way? Or just a gut feeling?
Barry
Nah. Besides, I’ve seen the sunglasses you choose to buy–it’s not me that I’m worried about. 
This thread is very reassuring. I was the one who originally brought up the question of dopers who wondered if they would spend the rest of their life single.
Admittedly, I had thought so of myself just based on my brief dating experiences. But now after seeing so much feedback, my attitude has changed. I don’t think I’ll be single the rest of my life, but I’m not expecting things to change overnight.
I’m glad that we could be of some help. I really had a feeling that the “We’re perfectly happy being single, thankyouverymuch” responses in that original thread weren’t exactly what you were looking for, and those of us with dissenting opinions were firmly told to Shut. The. Hell. Up.
I hope you do manage to find somebody special some day, and if not, I hope you manage to enjoy life to the fullest anyway.
Barry
Sorry, agree with your actual point, but LOVED the thought of Depression on a time line!
“Hello, I’d like to make an advanced appointment with the Doctor, please? I’m planning a depression in about 10 or 15 years, and I’d like to get on the waiting list …”