I have occasionally heard a rule of thumb about age differences in relationships: that a man shouldn’t date a woman who isn’t at least seven years older than half his age. I just mentioned this “rule” to a friend who had never heard it, and she wondered where it came from. I have heard it more than once (and vaguely remember some source, not necessarily a credible one as I recall, attributing it to Gandhi), but I don’t really know where it came from. Does anyone here know?
I also thought that I saw a thread on this topic about a year ago, but couldn’t find it when I searched.
In Malcom X Elijah Muhammed says pretty much that rule though I can’t remember if it was half plus seven or half plus nine. I don’t know where he got it from.
I too have heard the “0.5x + 7” rule. I’ve also heard of “2x - 7” for the upper age limit.
I have no idea where they came from.
For a 16 year old, the lower limit is 15, upper is 25.
For a 18 year old, the lower limit is 16, upper is 29.
21: 17.5, 35.
25: 19.5, 43.
30: 22, 53.
35: 24.5, 63.
40: 27, 73.
The problem with this is that you get different ranges of age depending on which person you’re considering. For instance, according to the above, a 21-yr-old could date a 35-yr-old, but the 35-yr-old shouldn’t date below 24.5. Perhaps this is why the upper age limit isn’t referred to as often.
I’ve never heard of an explicit formula for the upper bound, but if you phrase the rule properly you don’t need one. Just say that in any relationship, the age of the younger person should be at least half the older person’s age plus seven years. This implies that the age of the older person should be at most twice the younger person’s age minus 14 years, and there’s no inconsistency based on which version of the rule you pick.
Jake4, either your memory or your algebra is off, that second formula should be 2x - 14. Or really, 2y - 14, if x is the age of the older person and y is the age of the younger person… presuming you want to just switch the formula around and not make up a whole new formula.
Demonstration, because math is fun: x/2 + 7 = y x/2 = y - 7 x = 2(y - 7) x = 2y - 14
And by the way, the only relevant rule that you should be worrying about is the legal one for your country. For the rest, whatever you’re comfortable with.
It was the standard advice in Etiquette text books back in the day. My parents have a “Lady’s Home Companion” from 1908, as well as a 1940s book on Marriage Etiquette with it.
It’s based on the premise that women over 30 are almost unmarriagable, except as the second wives of elderly widowers. In those days marriage was about procreation, and a virgin, fertile, healthy unmarried woman over 30 would be very unusual.
Not a “rule” as such, more of a guideline, but where I work sleeping with a woman one year older than twice your age is known as “getting your boiler’s ticket”
I’m too lazy to search, but IIRC, the thread was in IMHO, the title was something like: “May-December romances?” and the OP was lezlers.
She was thinking about getting into a relationship with a much older man. Incidentally, she want ahead with it, and at last report it was working out very well for her.
It was a rather long thread with a lot of good comments.
