I was thinking today, and ended up making a list that was really interesting.
Of my 46 closest non-gay friends and coworkers who I have known for more than ten years and are in the age range of 25-45, practically none of them hads kids between the ages of 22-30, which I would have thought was near the biological prime of people.
8 people had kids before the age of 22 and in six cases it was unplanned. None of them have had kids after 22(but 2 had two kids before 22 and one had 3)
6 began families after the age of 30.
20 are over 30 and have no kids.
8 are between 25 and thirty and claim no desire to have kids in the near future. 2 married, both partners agree.
4 had kids in that age range(3 are over 30). But in three of those cases they got married and the person they married already had custody of kid who was born to the other person before the age of 22. Only one guy from my group of friends got married and decided to start a family at the age of 24.
Is my group of friends a bunch freaks, or that a common distribution these days? I realize that a group of close friends is somewhat self-selecting based on similar interests, but I don’t remember asked people back in high school when they were planning on having kids before allowing them to become friends.