Your phone doesn’t take pictures? Bring a camera next time. Snap a photo.
Now call the counsel and the police.
I mean, seriously, a photo will satisfy everyone, and if he notices he’s being photographed, all the better, I say! Might prove the deterrent you’re looking for!
Even if he is no threat to you, the behavior will continue until he is confronted. Even if he never touched someone, the impact this could have on a child is significant.
The problem with the police is that it creates a headache for you. You will have to speak to a detective, maybe a court date or two. It creates an uncomfortable situation if you run into him in public again.
You could confront him and tell him if he does it again you will call the police. But this is also a risk and I would understand your discomfort in doing so.
My vote is anonymous call to the police and/or alert the neighbors through a letter explaining what happened (anonymously if you want) and suggest that if anyone sees it happen again to call the cops.
Well, called the council, and they definitely took it seriously, but told me to call the police, as well as saying they’d pass it on to the committee.
Police did take it sort of seriously, but instead of calling the council to find out the guy’s name (council lady did say she thought she knew who I meant, in which case they’d have his full name and address on file- and basically told me she couldn’t give the info to me, but could tell the police if they asked), they just asked me to identify him by such things as ‘what was he wearing’ and ‘what colour was his motorbike’, which I only saw once, 6 months ago, and only mentioned when she asked if I thought he lived on that street, and I said I didn’t think so, as he didn’t walk in.
They asked me to just call next time he’s there, but pretty much said for a first offence it’s basically a caution, so I doubt court’s likely unless he does it again- or if this is not the first offence.
I partly don’t want to get personally confrontational as I have a lot of stuff up there, with no security inside the site and someone pissed off at me could do a few £100’s worth of damage easily to my shed and plants, without anyone being able to see.
Hmmm… I wonder what unique kind of fertilizer he must use?
You did the right thing. Lots of folks are embarrassed when these things happen and don’t want to make waves or make a big deal about it, but calling these guys out the right thing to do.
We had an old guy at the library that would do stuff like that- shorts with no underwear and letting his genitals ‘accidentally’ hang out. Once we moms and locals got to talking about it, we realized he was doing this a lot. Many people had experienced an exposure by him and didn’t want to cause trouble, so let it go.
I tole him “Sir, your penis is hanging out of your shorts.” He acted flustered and left immediately. I don’t think he was flustered about the exposure, just the being called out about it. Later, he was arrested at another library. As far as I’m concerned, he deserved it. These events were not accidents.
Turn the hose on him. It works on regular dogs. Why not on the two-legged kind?
The mans a menace, he’ll keep doing it as long as he gets away with it.
If he does it again report him to the police again.
What surprises me is that people can lose their allotment for merely letting it become untidy, overgrown, or not using it.
But you say that the council though apparently aware of what is actually a sex crime, did nothing about it .
A woman was raped in Central Park this week and authorities believe it might be related to lewd behavior she witnessed during an earlier visit.
Your creep might be harmless but I’d bring some pepper spray and have it ready when he comes around.
I get this, I really do, but what you’re saying is that the possibility of stopping him from doing this to someone else is worth less to you than that amount of money. As a kid I was flashed by my neighbor every single day when I got home from school and no one did anything about it and I’m telling you it fucked me up for decades.
Just go around and mention it to the other people with gardens, especially the women and families with kids. You can approach it as if you’re looking for advice on how to handle it if that makes you feel less confrontational, but in my mind not warning them makes you a part of the problem.
“Put the snake back in your trousers, you dirty old wanker!” Then take a pic and give it to the police. He’s ruining your enjoyment of your garden. Don’t let him.
StG