I imagine that some of the handicapped ones are among the good ones.
How about coming up with a nice term, or a neutral one? I don’t want to demean anyone, but I need some terminology to be able to talk about it.
Of the ones who have come on to me, one was self-identified as gay, one I met in a drag bar and he was wearing a black leather muscle shirt. (I would have met more of them by now, but I hate bars, all the cigarette smoke and chest-tissue-vibrating amplification). Queer teahouses are more my speed.) The one I quoted above didn’t tell me his sexual orientation, but the majority of the other ones I’ve known are, and the chatter I’ve heard in the trans community about the phenomenon reports them as gay, but generally in denial. One of my Tgirlfriends used to be on the street in New York City, and intervened when she saw an Orthodox rabbi trying to pick up another Tgirl. This is the first time, though, I’ve seen “straight” attributed to the phenomenon. I don’t know. If they’re straight and attracted to me, at least it would mean they were responding to me as a woman and not as a man.
The one who groped me, it was on the 4th of July, and he’d been celebrating our nation’s independence with a few too many. Otherwise he was a very sweet and gentle, lonely guy and I didn’t get mad at him.
Yes, you understand exactly why we feel demeaned by being objectified, but hey, women get that all the time. When I opened the door to womanhood and stepped across the threshold I didn’t expect it to be no bowl of cherries. I listen and observe patiently, and learn from other women’s examples. I’ve been getting ready for this my whole life.
So, tranny chasers are like womanizers. However, instead of objectifying women, like womanizers do, they objectify men dressed up as women. How about trannyizers or trannizers as a term to describe them?
I know it and I hate that attitude. That was my whole point of why I don’t want to be approached that way. I love gay guys as people, but if anyone negates my femaleness, it’s an instant deal breaker. It’s extremely offensive. I feel the same way if heterosexual women approach me that way. Can’t we just be friends?
The guy who was hitting on me was over in London. We disputed different interpretations of the term “fag hag.” I called myself that as a woman who likes to be friends with gay men. He insisted it means a woman who sleeps with a gay man as his lover. This doesn’t make much sense to me. I suspect he was pulling my leg. He was implying that now that I called myself a fag hag, it means I should sleep with him on his next trip to America. I felt he was twisting my words to say what I didn’t mean.
No good. The word tranny is offensive to begin with. Hey, I can say it because I am one, but you can’t say it. 
It’s the new political correctness.
I apologize to everyone for using offensive language, it’s just such a newly recognized phenomenon that the street language is all we hear at first. Interesting linguistic process there. Street slang is never afraid of being offensive. When polite society tries to discuss it, they have to either neutralize the offensiveness or come up with a PC term for it.
A transvestite is a man dressed as a woman. A transexual is not.