Or is one of my other roommates the bad roommate?
I am a quiet, keep to myself type of person, and my two roommates are pretty social and like to watch TV together and the like. I moved in in July of 2006 and have pretty much been living in my room, as that is where my computer is, and most of my homework and hobbies revolve around it, I also have a TV in my room and DVD player. I have a huge movie collection I let them watch whenever, and have once or twice asked that they keep them in a particular order. I also have an external hard drive I have set up with a shared file for music and other things they want to access through the network. I cook regularly and until recently have ALWAYS asked if they wanted some. Something they don’t return the favor of, but whatever.
We had a system where there was “community” food, and if you bought it, you wrote down the price and the other roommates pitched in and paid you back. I almost always bought the stuff but never bothered writing down the cost. If they cook something and don’t put a name on it, the rule is that it is open to whomever. I rarely ate their leftovers, and when I did they never complained (I only ate the ones that had no names of course). They have had quite a few parties in which people left their old booze, and during the semester break, I drank up some of this, but I did offer to replace it, they declined.
One of the roommate is pretty messy, and she leaves her laundry downstairs for a week at a time. I have taken them upstairs on several occasions, as “cleaning” the laundry room is my job, and while taking her clothes upstairs isn’t, I can’t clean when there are piles of laundry.
The landlord is the two roommates father, and part of living there is doing yard work. I don’t mind mowing and the like, and we do rotate, but there are some crazy neighbors that complain about our leaves. They were so insistent and annoying my roommates talked to the police and had them told to stop bugging us. I mentioned to them then that lawn work isn’t my favorite, and when I moved in it wasn’t something that was mentioned, I also told them I don’t mind mowing, but raking the yard is something I don’t care to do.
Anyway, lately one of the roommates has pretty much stopped talking to me. Her laptop broke, and I fixed it one for her, but she hasn’t asked me to fix it again (simple problem). She doesn’t say hi, and before she stopped talking she pretty much never ate anything I cooked, and when I offered she kind of got the “yeah, whatever” look and tone to her voice. I have suspicions it is due to my hermit like living style, but I am not certain. She wrote me an email asking when I was going to move out, and I pretty much responded with a little rudeness, she has gotten worse then.
(email - Are you moving out this summer, basically: Me: well, don’t know what your problem has been lately, but yes, I am moving out and won’t torture you with my presence any longer)
Anyway, I was wondering if I am committing a Faux Pas or something by not being social and hanging out with them watching TV. Sometimes it is hard because the one that is mad at me is young (turning 21 soon, and acts pretty immature), she gets snippy if you say something she doesn’t agree with, even as far as laughing at your face while saying you are wrong.
Personally I am perplexed, as I haven’t changed in any way since I moved in, except not hanging out as much. We met in school, we aren’t long time friends, and never hung out a whole lot other than parties and around the house.
So am I being a bad roommate, or what? I am quiet in the mornings, I don’t stomp around or have the TV and music up loud, ever. I consider myself very considerate of people around me in that regard, and I am confident in stating that I think I am a good roommate, but this has me wondering.
What are your thoughts, am I the bad roommate, or are they overreacting, am I looking more into this than I should?