Am I killing my husbands dreams?

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@Maastricht

My husband makes a point of not lying to me either. If I ask him if my butt looks big, he’ll say: “Yes, but I love you anyway”.

It sounds to me like you both may be laboring under the misconception that obstinate “truthfulness” is a key to a successful marriage rather than the base poison it actually is. There was a discussion here not too long ago on this subject:

@Hilarity_N.Suze

No, marital communication is not just opening your mouth and spouting off the truth. Almost directly the opposite, in fact. For me, that is work.

@tesseract

Yes. For me, not almost the opposite, but – stating the necessary parts of the truth in a very diplomatic and caring manner – that is huge work.

@Voyager

Yes. The important part of communication is listening, not talking - and sometimes listening to what isn’t said also. That takes a lot more effort than flapping ones gums.