I saw an episode of the Graham Norton show once that featured people who have a wool fetish. Wool garters, wool stockings, wool hoods with no eyeholes, etc. A wool cockring would totally and completely not surprise me at this point.
It wasn’t this past weekend, it’s the weekend coming up.
And on what planet do you think I’d share how it went? The planet where I wrestle with pigs?
How about the same planet where you started a thread to brag about setting it up in the first place.
I will take this opportunity to agree with Dio for the first time in this thread.
PS, regarding this tired meme that “women only have to walk six feet to have sex if they want to” : Yeah, maybe, if you have no standards and don’t give a shit about the person you are having sex with. If you actually want to find someone you have an emotional connection with and find attractive, instead of just using the criterion “will have sex with me if asked,” it’s a bit more difficult.
I’d set you straight on that, but I’m tired of wrestling with pigs.
I’m kind of late to the party but I’m going to defend tdn here.
A lot of people here, myself included, find tdn’s thoughts about romance and dating to be a tad (or more) creepy. But you know what? There are all sorts of people in this world. There are men who have read The Game and there are women who like men to use pick-up lines from The Game. The women of the Dope might not be those women, but those women exist.
So tdn has found someone who likes his style. Good for him. tdn likes the idea of a romantic getaway at a remote B&B as the setting for their first date, and so does she. That’s the kind of girl who’s attracted to a guy like him. What’s the big deal?
I don’t see anyone being taken advantage of here. Does anyone really think that tdn said “The only way you’re going to meet me is at a remote B&B, in a shared room with romantic overtones”? I highly doubt it. If she had suggested they meet in a coffee shop 6 hours away, I bet he’d have done that. tdn might be the sort of guy who threw the whole B&B thing out there as a hopeful over-the-top suggestion, but she’s the sort of girl/they have the sort of relationship where she didn’t balk. She thought it was cool. So that’s what they’re going to do.
It might all blow up in their faces but both parties seem to be going in to it with the same expectations. A guy we consider creepy has found someone that thinks he’s lovely. Good on them.
Nobody said that anybody was being taken advantage of.
So… the same planet then?
Look tdn, I’m not getting down on you. I hope you have a great time, and I hope you find a long-term relationship from this. It’s just, many people (I think) find this situation to be less than ideal in terms of wanting to start a real relationship. I’m not even sure if that’s what you want though.
Seriously? You don’t plan to update us?
[head exploding smilie here]
I guess. I just find it skeevy when he’ll post about his flirting with women and it seems that he’s just read so much into it. Like the one where he offered some women change for the parking meter and then said that he could have gotten them to do anything but he blew it by just walking away. I mean, really, dude? I’m sure if you asked the women they’d just say, “Some guy gave us change for the parking meter.” Not, “I wish in addition to quarters, he’d asked us to lick whipped cream off his nipples.”
Yeah but this time he’s landed a girl that would have done anything in exchange for that quarter.
There’s a big difference between his perceptions of the reactions & feelings of waitresses and women on the street, and having a real live woman who responds with “OMG YES I WILL DO THAT WITH YOU!”
Most of us women probably think sleestak’s Dom/sub situation is weird, and if he went around expressing how he wanted a sub or how he liked going to restaurants and having women serve him made his parts tingly because he knew they liked to serve him, we’d call him out on it like we do with tdn. But, slee has found a woman who is actually into that sort of thing and he’s talking about that specific woman and their specific relationship, so…good deal.
I agree that if we posed the question “What would your idea of a good first date be?” and tdn answered with a description of this particular plan, we’d all be skeeved. “Where on earth are you going to find a woman who would do this?!” we’d say. But if the question were “Describe a first date that was spectacular” and he gave this answer, we might snicker but all in all, it’s not that skeevy.
The issue wasn’t particularly skeeviness, but that it’s unwise for a woman to go alone to meet a random stranger from the internet at an out of town hotel, and her family was right to be concerned.
As a sub-issue, it’s also been suggested by several of us that tdn should at least reserve a second room in case things don’t go well.
Again, nutty and grandiose, but he says he did not flirt with those women.
It’s an example of how he seems to read way too much into his interactions with women.
Sure, but it wasn’t a “post about his flirting with women,” and that was my quibble with Freudian Slit.
Okay, if not flirting, then let’s just file it under vaguely creepy or misinterpreted encounters that tdn’s had with women.
Well, I got the impression that he wishes he had and regrets not doing so.
Well, he has if his judgment is sound. I think his judgment has been called into question a few too many times for me to just accept everything he says about any woman.
They would have done ANYTHING for a quarter. All waitresses LOVE when he flirts with them. They have a DEEP connection. She wants to spend ALL WEEKEND in bed with him.
I dunno. They all sound like they come from the same place.
Understood. I’m just noting the distinction between how he thinks and how he acts, the one seeming considerably more weird than the other.
There is this, to be sure.
I’m disappointed as well. I believe there’s a tacit obligation to provide an epilogue, at minimum, to threads created to announce an upcoming misadventure. Possible exceptions made for the polyamorous stripper anticipating her new career as a Muhammad caricaturist in Kabul, or the author of “Ask the Future Self-Trepanner!”
And I was looking forward to interpreting the spin.