It isn’t remotely the same. Because if a straight couple were found to be engaging in adultery, they would get maybe some scorn, maybe ridicule, maybe lose some friends. Even in that era. Because at least they were “normal”. Ennis and Jack had no chance to be together, none.
And we are supposed to feel sympathy for his wife. I sure did. But as for the violence…I even understood that. When all your feelings are pent-up like and you are beyond frustrated and miserable, sometimes you lose your temper. And after all, he was probably thinking - you have me, don’t you? I’m here after all. I gave up all I wanted to come and live with you and take care of our child.
Not to say you should suddenly like it! But I do think it was fraught with emotion and a fairly good love story, even if it was altogether too real.