BBF sounds like another Construct sock born to troll.
You really need to get a life. You’re putting way too much time and effort into this. Whether you’re just trolling Ambi or legitimately upset at him, your obsession with taking him down is pathetic.
Well, I won’t see his name again. Anyone that butt stupid doesn’t deserve equal time on my computer screen. Ambi for the evisceration.
I always think of this.
I’m not the type to pile on, nor will I be insulting you here, but I do have to agree with the general sentiment here that your responses in the other thread were extraordinarily tone deaf.
Yes, Ambivalid can be rough around the edges, and frankly, I thought he was on his way to a banning not too long after he joined the board, he seemed to be a on one-man crusade to end even the slightest injustice, no matter how well-intentioned, against the handicapped, and he was rather belligerent, but he calmed down and has since become a contributing member of the board. Frankly, I’m sure anyone that witnessed those threads easily remembers that he’s in a wheel chair, but obviously, anyone not familiar with his posting history wouldn’t know that, so it didn’t even seem like he took it personally that people misunderstood his wording.
But despite that he’s rough around the edges, I’ve been through a situation not all that different from what he’s going through now. Having been there, I can say that, in the grip of grief, one isn’t in a place to rationally evaluate the circumstances that led to the break-up. That’s like telling a kid learning to ride a bike that they took a turn too sharply and that’s why they fell… while the kid is still sitting there in pain with a bleeding gash on his elbow. So, that’s the mistake you made in that thread, trying to provide advice on what went wrong and on future relationships while he’s still reeling from a harsh end to the previous one.
Further, yes, I agree that in almost every relationship, there’s blame to spread around. Chances are he missed warning signs. Chances are there are situations where he came off more intimidating or threatening than he thought he did. Chances are he said or did other things that affected her in ways he didn’t realize. But, again, having been there, in the early stages of grief, I too was completely blind to that sort of analysis. After I’d gotten through most of the grief, I was able to look back and realize what parts were my fault, where I’d missed red flags, and then I was able to learn what I can do to improve my contribution to future relationships and the types of behavior patterns in future potential girlfriends I should be on the lookout for and avoid.
But the key point is, grief is NOT rational, and trying to apply a rational mind to it, only exacerbates the issue. Its inhuman to see another person in grief and then basically tell them to suck it up and experience REAL pain as you did with the whole “go biking thing”. Despite that some jumped on you about that he can’t because he’s paralyzed, I think the far greater misstep there is, just like you wouldn’t tell that kid crying over the gash on his elbow that he doesn’t know REAL pain until he’s been through some completely unrelated, though likely more painful, injury you’ve had.
That said, by all means, if someone makes a thread moping about how they can’t get over their girlfriend they broke up with 3 months ago, maybe that’s a good time to tell them to suck it up, learn from their mistakes, and move on. But telling someone that the day after or whatever? Yeah… no.
Just let him cope in whatever way he thinks will help him, and leave him alone.
Did u really need to quote the entire OP? After scrolling past the whole damn thing on my phone I need to ice my index finger. :mad:
Turns out BBF was the girlfriend all along!
More likely the girlfriend’s brother.
I never knew this (the walking part, that is). So, you know, silver linings and all that.
I think this is one of the very few times I’ve ever seen the consensus opinion among Pit denizens about an OP be “Holy crap dude, you need to get a life and let this go!”
BBF, this is probably a clue. You might contemplate the ramifications of this response a little.
You won’t, of course, but you should.
A wheelchair rider friend of mine says that he writes/says “walked” instead of “rolled” lest some insensitive jackass accuse him of trolling for sympathy.
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Me, too !
QFT! What the fuck is wrong with you (OP) man? You, Boo Boo Foo, are an asshole!
Oh my. Clearly, you weren’t around during Ambivalid’s first six months on this board. The mere fact that you apparently weren’t aware of his disability is testament to how much he’s chilled out since then.
And so what if he’s talking smack about someone who’s not here to defend themselves? That’s the whole POINT of the Internet, isn’t it? Sounds to me like YOU are the one with unresolved issues, who’s blaming everyone else for the very same shit you refuse to acknowledge in yourself. (Although, come to think, that’s the whole point of the Internet, too…)
I know that not everyone on the board is an Ambivalid fan. Not even me, generally. But in this case I think the consensus, majority, if not damn well nearly everyone, thinks you are the DICK in this situation.
I’m sure that deep down there’s a psychological reason for your resentment here in this situation. Talk to your therapist, hopefully they’ll help you figure it out.
I have trolled and snarked on **Ambivalid **till he’s PM’d me[1] telling me to fuck off.
And I STILL think **BBF **is the dick in this situation.
[1] Actually Ambi, not Melbourne.
He’s an anonymous person trashing someone who is completely anonymous. OMG, somewhere, there is a woman he doesn’t like. BFD. He’s not hurting anyone by venting here.
Bozo, you obviously can’t read. I had never run into Ambivalid before. And yet, I knew he used a wheelchar. Because, you know, like 3 posts after he said “walked” someone asked him about it, and he replied.
Similar to your blowing up at a guy because a third party sent you a PM with the guy’s name as a title. That was so bizarre I had to laugh. But let’s just say I don’t think you are the most reliable at understanding a situation.
He might be. I’ve never interacted with him before. Who cares. At that precise moment, he was grieving. Grieving people aren’t rational. They aren’t ready to analyse what they might have done differently. Hell, just the fact that he wrote about his anger management makes me think he will be working on improving himself.
You, on the other hand, are just a jerk with little self-awareness. Or maybe you ARE actually the girlfriend’s brother, in which case I’ll give you a pass, just like I give Ambi a pass, for being to emotionally involved in the situation to be rational just now.
I would like to know more about why somebody called Melbourne would be sending Facebook messages about Ambivalid to a dick like Boo?
Has there ever been a thread about a personal relationship problem that didn’t turn into some form of a trainwreck here?