American Low Life Ex Pats that hide out in Foreign Countries then whine!

I came across a thread on this site that has now been closed and the poster banned. He was ranting about his Chinese wife being denied access to the U.S. spewing all kinds of hate against the U.S. - another ex-pat that ran from the U.S. to hide from the sounds of it. Seriously, this post brought to mind something I have been wanting to tell the world about for the past 11 yrs., it does not imply by any means all Americans who go to foreign countries to “teach English” because I know that’s an honorable trade, the majority taking on this profession are great people with honorable intent.

Then you have the scum bag liars who have lied, cheat, stolen and deceived everyone and everything they ever knew in thier home country, the United States and run like weenies to hide in another country to escape all thier wrong doing… Funny thing is, they escape nothing, it either follow them to thier new destination or slaps them in the face at some point, Karma’s a bitch and so is being a con!

After being blacklisted from his career field in the U.S. at one company for attempting extortion on company property causing us to uproot the kids and move out of state, he then gets the boot for sexually harrassing a co-worker, last laugh for her because she doesn’t like men and made that clear, he was dillusional to say the least! Wait… maybe it was the 120 Vicodin he took every 2-3 weeks… who knows! His last name is very unique in the U.S. causing me from being blacklisted in the same career field after years of great service - lots of job offers until they ran the background check and found his name attached to mine, thanks Asshole!

After 4 yrs. of sitting on his pathetic butt and not working, sucking me and my kids dry of every cent we made and brought in, he finally took a job… lo & behold a company wants “him” to work in Taiwan in the aerospace industry - supposed to be a 6-12 mo. job but here he comes back home after 45 days and was fired! He bragged about the hateful remarks and distention he deliberately put out to the Taiwanese coworkers, he hated them, he’s a racist pig! While he was there he never sent a penny home, instead asking for “care packages” every week… ya, trying to put my 2 youngest through high school and still supporting him while he was in Taichung doing the “tourist thing”.

So he comes home, only effort he put out was trying to get disability through the VA system, service connected. Later I get a letter saying he was denied, he lied about everything, he was less than honorably discharged, never had service connected illnesses nor injuries, and was using the VA system while deserving Vets were waiting in line behind him… again, what an asshole! When all of this failed, he got himself committed to the psych ward at the VA for a weekend, walks out all signed up for SSDI, and it was approved less than a month later with retro check in the mail, but he kept that a secret! Yep, 2 1/2 days in the psych ward and he had it all wrapped up, gets SSDI for a weekend of depression and lies. Depressed? Naw, he was drug enduced and a liar, had nothing to be depressed about.

So he dissapears with SSDI funds, moves to Taichung to hook up with a girl he met in his class, under 18 yrs. old, gives her a sob story, works his way into her family all at the same time leaving the U.S. and his family of 17 yrs. without a good bye, I found my car at the San Diego Airport parking lot, and in time lost yet another job over his shiesty doings, good going asshole! All in all, long story short, it took me almost 2 yrs. to find out he had left me over $94,000.00 in debt. I found him quickly, I’m smarter than he is, but I never asked him to come back it was good riddens and Thank You God! In time I also found out he was being sought by San Diego County, the City of San Diego and the State of California all for criminal and/or things he was doing and got found out about. I also found he had rented a storage unit, purchased new computer equipment, jewelry, clothes and all kinds of goodies, at the same time and up until the day he left, he was taking my paychecks and asking my daughters for thier money, at the same time he had about $20,000 in the bank, had removed my name from my own acct. of 20 yrs… for real!

As the months follow and I’m trying to clean up the wreckage of “his past” and move on with my daughters, the only contact I have with him is via email asking him for 2 things, will you help me get a divorce and what is your intent in resolving the debt left here in the U.S.? He refused to act on either, for over 4 yrs. he said nope to both! At the same time he and his student girlfriend are featured in the Taiwan Fun magazine as an engaged couple, how sweet is that on Valentine’s Day! See the happy couple here… Cross-Cultural Dating and Marriage Same day I write and ask for a divorce, nope you’re not getting one! Ok so I don’t tell him I know about his Bigot Marriage and ya, she knew he was married, I am a good investigator. At the same time I’m asking him to address his debts in this country so I can have a life, his reply as always, nope no can do I have a life here!

At the same time, he is still collecting a monthly disability check auto deposited into our bank in another state, withdrawn at the ATM in Taichung, monthly disability check of over $1300.00 because he spent 2 1/2 days in the psych ward. In the interim IRS took my refund monies even after accepting a letter of hardship from me, the Atty. Gen. Office in D.C. has filed an investigation report, both of these agencies along with SD County, City and CA State by then knew he (and I legally) own a brand new factory in Taichung! See my Taiwan Factory here… MjbEngineering.com is for sale | HugeDomains or my Outsourcing Business here … MjbEngineering.com is for sale | HugeDomains Yep, he’s collecting SSDI and owns a factory in Taichung, they had the address, all the proof of business registered in the MOE’s office everything you can imagine. At the same time his illegal wife is travelling in and out of the U.S. under my name, again no one in Taiwain cares! He gains residency on a bigotted illegal marriage, no one cares. He lied on his certificate of marriage at AIT in Taipei, the American Rep. knew he was still married to me and not free to marry, he had proof on file. Mark Copeland at AIT in Taipei …http://acs.ait.org.tw/ The ex now has a Chinese name, wow I wonder how much dishonor he has brought to that name so far!

All in all he continues to lie to gov. agencies in the United States and in Taiwan, but both countries have all the proof they need to convict him in either place. With the fairly new Multiple Marriage Laws in the ROC his illegal wife will be imprisoned for up to 1 yr, he the same there and up to 5 yrs. here in the U.S… his coworkers, then business associates, minister, wife & inlaws, AIT, ROC Gov in Taiwan & U.S. knows he is a criminal, a fake that obtained permanent residence on an illegal marriage and need I say more… does nothing about it!

In regards to the post I read that set this post in action; the poster’s words were identical to my now ex’s against the U.S. and everyone in it, at the same time deliberately and dillusionally holding high regard for their new place of residency even though the crime, laws, freedom, and everything really sucks there compared to the U.S., at the same time ripping off benefits from the U.S. so they can live a fasod in a country that could give a rats ass what or who they really are simply because they can show a wallet with a few bucks in it and a load of lies to make them impressed!

I say stay in Taiwain and China, the U.S. has been rid of two more low lifes, no one here misses you and no one here wants you back, not even your families do. (the last time I seen my ex, I looked in the rear view mirror and seen him throw his father’s cremains in a dumpster downtown San Diego) some son huh! Good news is and my day will come when he and his illegal criminal wife try to reap the benefits of the retirement plans we built together… I’ve already got my cut ready to draw on, thanks to the honest courts in the United States… have a good life asshole and please do not ever return but you could repay some of the monies you have ripped me off for, the U.S. Gov Agencies, my Daughter’s college monies, and Social Security Disability Insurance Benefits!

Years ago there was website called www.whatanasshole.com sure wish it were still around I’d enshrine him on it! Thanks for listening, I’ve waited 11 yrs. to tell anyone outside my family about this.

Your anger comes through loud and clear, but it kind of drowns out the sense. Can you post a just-the-facts version? It’s really difficult to follow you in the OP. I gather the main complaint is that your husband is in a bigamous marriage in Taiwan after having abandoned you in San Diego. The rest of it is really confusing.

Thank you, I appreciate your suggestions! However, no my complaint is not a “jilted ex” per se.. no way, am very happy he’s gone. My complaint is those that leave thier home country to deliberately abandon thier lives and set up a new one based on lies, at the same time using gov. agencies and benefits in the U.S. as they demean the very country that is paying thier way. Sorry for the length and confusion, will try to omit most of it, had to get it put in words first.
My point… I cannot and never will accept liars, cons and cheats and find them to be fairly worthless in the mainstream of life.

How do I edit my original post am not finding that option? BTW, the reason for the length is to tell the events that happened, that are involved as a dishonest person. Honestly I hold no anger today, am just disgusted and tired of the whole drama he left me with.

too late

FAQ - Rules for Posting at the Straight Dope Message Boards: Can I edit my own post? (a sticky thread in the About This Message Board Forum)

Thanks for the info Arnold, now I know. I made no errors, was taking suggestion to shorten it to be more to the point. Sorry for such a long post, but like you said “it is what it is” so I’ll be sure to be brief from now on.

Don’t worry about changing the original. I was just wondering if you could re-tell the story in another post to make it a little clearer. It sounds to me like leaving the country had little to do with it—he would have acted the same if he’d just changed states or cities.

I was able to understand most of your OP, but what the heck is a fasod?

Welcome to the SDMB, BeachBum2U. We have a special forum for people to get angry about things, so I’ll move this there for you.

twickster, MPSIMS moderator

Be prepared to be flamed for taking this courageous stand.

What about lawyers, guns and money?

ETA: I before E, except after C, or when it is AY, like in neighbor or their.

Gypsies, tramps and thieves?

I just heard that on KFOG a few days ago!

I don’t know if you are dyslexic or if English is your second language, but it is “their”. I wouldn’t normally say anything about a misspelling, but you did it every time. “Their” is one of the few words where the “i before e” rule doesn’t apply.

Google suggests “facade.” I was confused, too.

Falsehood?

I won’t to nitpick the spelling or anything but, yes, the story is a bit unclear. I was several paragraphs in before I guessed the OP was talking about her estranged husband (for some reason, some passages put me in mind of someone ranting about a wastrel younger brother, i.e. the problems the OP suffered for having the same, discredited, googlable name).

But hey, it fits in fine for a Pit thread, where strict coherence in a rant is actually a negative. It’s been a few hours, so I invite the OP to retell the story in a clearer, calmer way if she wants sympathy, or advice on how to screw her ex over through various legal means, assuming she’s interested in either of those.

As an incidental note, he gets $1300/month in disability after spending 2.5 days in a psych ward? Heck, I’ll do a crazy weekend for $1300/month…

I’d do it to pass the time.

This thread was not started in the pit, so I don’t think it’d be fair to pile shit onto the OP for its incomprehensibility. However, quite frankly, I can’t read all of that. It’s hysterical as shit, and I got stressed out halfway through trying to decode the fourth paragraph. So please, OP, calmly and concisely state the following things:

  1. Who is the ex-pat, in relation to you?
  2. Can you explain how or why his criminal record would be linked to you in job interviews? Do you have the same first name as him, too?
  3. Can you sum up your original post, and why you’re so upset, in 1 paragraph of fewer than 500 words? You could save a lot of space (and decrease reader confusion) if you leave out the little disparaging remarks on the side about vicodin, coworkers who don’t like men, and your past job interviews.

I think it’s about a hallucinating OP who married and was jilted by his/her identical twins, who ran off to China and inspired all those others to as well.