A lot could change judgments about this depending on a lot of contextual details but, in general, given the following scenario, can you understand (or at least see as understandable) the wife’s reaction?
The scenario is: A family receives from the father’s family a Christmas gift, on December 14th let’s say (don’t look too closely at that posting date!), of a $400 gift certificate to Kohl’s, along with a note (and no cards) saying “please use this to buy gifts for your children.” (The number of the counting of the children is: four.)
On seeing this, having looked at Kohl’s website, the mother of the family in receipt of the card begins crying and says she is very angry.
The reasons for the anger are:
No heads-up so she can prep for buying stuff, either at the store or delivered online, and wrapping it etc
No cards for the kids
The kids do not need clothes, and the family was not asked if they need clothes, so if the card is used for clothes, it will be either later (and so, fewer gifts under the tree) or now but bought for the future, which of course does not particularly excite children.
The toy selection at the website is full of stuff that is either boring and overpriced or boring and cheap. None of it is anything the kids have registered any kind of interest in. (Like, for example, this ninety dollar remote controlled rolling dinosaur thing, is pretty typical of the selection.
Any good reason for buying a Kohl’s gift certificate is a better reason to buy a more general cash card or Amazon gift certificate
This feels like a last minute, thoughtless ‘throw money at them’ gift, part of a pattern of such behavior on the part of said grandparents.
I tend to sympathize with the mom in this scenario, but others do not. What do you think?