I’m a former JW and the best advice for getting rid of JWs I can give is: ask them to leave and not come back. In most cases, they won’t come for another 6 months to a year to make sure you still live in your home and still feel the way you do.
As far as them being the least offensive, I take issue with that. For one, they’re going from door-to-door pushing their religion on people, but that’s not really offensive compared to their other beliefs. The major thing is that they practice shunning. Now you may be thinking “shunning, big freaking deal!” Well, it is a big deal for those who are affected. Simply because I chose to stop believing the teachings of the religion, I have lost my relationship with my family. My father isn’t even coming to my wedding because of it. But that’s just the beginning.
They are forbidden to even speak one word to someone who has left the church. Not even a simple “hello” is allowed. Since JWs are also forbidden from developing relationships with people outside of the belief system, leaving the church often means a severing of one’s entire support system. If you leave the JW religion, every single one of your friends and family will no longer speak with you unless it is absolutely necessary.
This was one of the things that kept me trapped for a long time. They purposely isolate you from the outside world and pump you full of fear. They tell you that a life full of misery is waiting outside, and that there is nothing better out there than their organization. Never mind all those JWs relying on anti-depressants, that’s just Satan testing God’s people!
Now to you that may sound silly and harmless, but to a fully indoctrinated JW, these are the words of God himself. It is a very effective mental prison. Yes, joining the witnesses is a completely voluntary choice and if that’s the choice you make, more power to you. But if you wish to leave, it is not a choice you make without heavy coercion. The more involved you are, the harder it is to break free mentally.
Finally, their teaching on blood has resulted in the death of many. They also have a nasty habit of harboring pedophiles without reporting instances of abuse to the authorities. Yet they will turn around and condemn the Catholic church for doing the same thing they do.
Some have left the JWs without much lasting harm at all, but typically those are the people who never really got into it as much as most have. All too often, leaving the church leaves one alone, with no support system and no one to talk to. It divides families into JW and non-JW factions (I personally experienced this, barely knowing half of my family growing up) and has the potential for great damage.
I know some of you may read this and think I’m some sort of crybaby. Maybe I should man up and take it huh? Well, unless you’ve truly walked in an ex-JWs shoes, you don’t understand. If you haven’t escaped from a cult or high control group yourself, you can’t understand. I’ve seen people die from hemorrhaging because the book of Acts forbids eating animal blood, because to them that includes blood transfusions. I’ve seen women forced to stay with men who are physically abusive because they believe the Bible only grants divorces on the grounds of fornication. I’ve seen families driven apart because the aunt and uncle celebrate Christmas and believe God is a trinity.
It is NOT a harmless religion.