So I’m going to be getting married next year, and we’re thinking about venues. I’d always been pretty sure I didn’t want a church wedding. I’d feel like a hypocrite, and anyway since the rules were loosened up in the UK a few years back, lots of nice venues now have licences so that the whole ceremony and reception can be held in one place. My fiancee is more amenable to religion than I am (heck, most people are!) but she is perfectly cool with a non-church wedding.
But a couple of friends and family have suggested that we should still consider a church wedding, purely because the setting is attractive. The ceremony doesn’t have to be overtly religious, they say, and I can kind of see the attraction in a pretty village church. But on the other hand I went to a church for a christening the other day, and felt pretty stupid sitting there listening to stuff I didn’t believe or even actively disagreed with.
What are your thoughts? I’m 90% certain we won’t opt for a church anyway, but I’m interested to hear opinions. From atheists - did you get married in church? If not married, would you consider it? And from Christians, would you consider it bad form for a self-confessed atheist to marry a “non-practising” Christian in a church? Would getting married in a church purely because it’s a pretty setting be, well, wrong?