Supposedly, a quick ejaculation is an evolutionary advantage (“wham bam, thank you ma’m”), but a hair trigger is not appreciated by modern women. I have heard that there are techniques that will allow the male to delay his orgasm…I have a few questions:
-are these techniques reliable?
-and, do they work?
Anybody have any personal experiences?
A few years ago, as part of a Tibetan buddhism kick, I learned to leave it off altogether. (First one to mention a certain Italian-inspired fast food gets a poke in the eye with a pointed stick.)
Tantra has had a slightly oogey association since the 70s, it seems, not helped at all by loons like Mantak Chia. His books have the advantage, at least, of being frank about the basic mechanics involved, but they’re written in California Guru-Speak, and have a lot of dubious mysticism tacked on.
My favourite book on the subject is Tantra in Tibet, by the XIV Dalai Lama. He rocks.
Eventually it seemed to me that there’s not a lot of advantage to delaying orgasm indefinitely, unless you’re in a relationship with someone who wants to keep at it until they start hallucinating, too. Personally, it seems more rewarding to me to just let go when they do. (Maybe pass on the first coupla ones, if you’re not in a hurry.)
If you’re a lazy man, you don’t have to go the mental-training route, by the way-- The simplest thing to do is, just before you come, reach down and press up on area between your scrotum and your anus, preventing any spillage. Hooray! Orgasm without detumescence. It doesn’t feel as good-- probably because you’re distracted, but it allows you to keep on truckin’, which can’t hurt.
A well-placed piece of string might help.
For me, delaying ejaculation permits multiple orgasms. For me, it is a mind/body control thing. I can’t speak for others or any particular philosophy or technique.
You don’t have to practice any kind of new age tantric buddic whatsit whosit nonsense. Just do this: when you’re about to lose it, slow down and clench the same muscles that you would clench if you were trying to stop the flow of urine (don’t practice while urinating, it can be bad for you.)
Repeat as necessary.
Without getting into the whole spiritual side of Tantra, there are several good Tantric books that go into the meditations and excersizes. The only title I can think of, because I own it, is “Tantra for the West” which is sort of a primer for tantric meditation.
All in all, the string would be easier.
I was in bed with a fellow when he asked me to try the following: when I was past the “point of no return” and just about to start ejaculating, stop masturbating. I shot, but didn’t go soft, and I was able to masturbate to a second orgasm immediately afterwards. The second orgasm lasted much longer.
This has only worked for me that once, though.
I disagree with cisco, stop while uninating is perfect. THink abot it as working out the muscle involved. Also, there are kegles for men you can find out about them here and I think [here](Complete Male Enhancement Rundown – Surgery LIFE Enhancement clePages/Prostate1.html.) ). Most of the info comes out of this colum
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My wife gets a bit sore after about 45 minutes…