The human orgasm is frustratingly short-its over in a few minutes. I have heard that through so called “tantric” techniques, the orgasm can be extended-Sting claimed he could extend his for over an hour.
Is such a thing possible? Are there any recreational drugs that mimic the effects of orgasm? Or are these claims so much BS?
My orgasms sure don’t last for a few minutes.
Yeah, well, I bet Sting says a lot of things.
I think tantric sex claims are usually that they allow you to engage in continuous sexual activity for very long periods of time by being very careful to monitor and modulate your levels of sexual stimulation. If you read some instruction materials about it, it sounds a lot closer to work than it is to fun.
There are also some uncomfortable-sounding tricks that allow men to delay their orgasms. For instance, with some careful timing and practice, you can learn to avert an incoming ejaculation by pulling your balls away from the base of your dong right before you spew. Afterwards, you can immediately continue sexing without having to deal with a post-orgasm refractory period. Note that you can do this without having to learn any of the other tantric stuff, though.
A few minutes? I’ve never timed one, but I’d say 10 to 15 seconds is a very long orgasm. I must be doing it wrong.
You seriously have orgasms that last this long? What’s happening for all this time? Are you actually ‘cumming’ for the entire “few minutes”? Because I associate orgasm with ejaculation.
Try laying your dick on the cool porcelain of your toilet bowl. Then slam the seat down as hard as you can. That will keep you occupied for at least another hour.
I suspect that the “few minutes” for the OP refers to the time from start to end of the sex act, not just orgasm.
In any case, sex is especially a case where it’s the journey rather than the destination that is important. In other words. whatever is leading up to ejaculation offers a lot of opportunities for increasing your (and your partner’s, if you have one) pleasure. There aren’t many ways that I know of that increase the pleasure of the actual orgasm.
I will add that, the longer I am able to prolong the sex act before ejaculation, the more intense the orgasm seems. My working theory is that semen is produced more actively during sex than at other times, and taking longer pre-ejaculation gives more time to produce more semen, thereby prolonging my orgasm for the time it takes to ejaculate that much more semen. In cruder terms, six squirts lasts longer than three squirts, and feels subjectively more intense. This also leads to a longer rest period required before going again. I hope this isn’t TMI, but you did ask.
Roddy
Yes…sort of. There are ways to extend the period of maximum arousal/pleasure directly before the energetic (male) orgasm. The “plateau” can be extended, and ejaculation delayed. (Also worthwhile noting that orgasm and ejaculation aren’t quite the same thing, but usually very closely associated.)
A process of “teasing” can extend the height of pleasure. You get close…and stop…and let things back down a little…then get close again. In essence, you’re using biofeedback techniques.
Also…it doesn’t always work. Most times, you get nothing more than a run-of-the-mill orgasm. But who’s complaining?
Playboy had an article, some years ago, about a “30 minute orgasm” for females. Dunno. The article left me pretty dubious. Still, those who enjoy multiple orgasms would seem to have found a good thing!
There’s something called “edging”, where you try to stay right on the line for as long as you can. I can do it for a few minutes before I can’t take it anymore and finish up (which tends to be pretty intense). Nothing tantric involved–you just ease back on the stimulation for for a few seconds, then continue very gently, repeat as necessary.
I think what Mr. Sumner is describing is not actual orgasm but an intense pleasurable sensation associated with extreme relaxation. I have done this just by lying down and attempting to relax to the point that I can no longer perceive my physical existence – something a HS girlfriend taught in an effort to accomplish “astral projection”. What I have experienced in this state has been pleasurable, weird and a little scary. The first indication, of course, is the monolithic erection brought on by the relaxation. The downside is that there is no real cathartic aspect to it, the sensation just fades and you are not less horny than before.
Needless to say, “tantric orgasm” is typically a solitary experience that does not involve coytus. I am not sure how this sort of thing could be done as part of a sex act.
Actually he was just messing about. He said that he’d gotten into tantric practices, and somehow the rumor above got started about him. Once he heard it, he figured, why deny it? It certainly made him more popular at parties, so-to-speak.
There was a book that explained all of this called “How to Please a Woman Every Time and Have Her Begging for More”. (side note, when he saw this title in a bookstore, my FIL said “I bet it says give her money”).
Awww, sometimes I feel bad for you boys. I don’t know if I can extend each individual orgasm, per se, but considering I can have like 8 in a row, it doesn’t really matter.
And honestly, an hour-long orgasm sounds exhausting.
You say that like it’s a bad thing…
Yeah, edging is the only thing I know about. It’s a bit more complicated that described, though. You go up to the line and suck in to keep yourself from squirting. It uses the same muscles you use in kegel exercises, and the stronger you get those muscles, the further you can go and the more times you can do it.
However, in my experience, extending your orgasm tends to make it weaker. When I finally let go, it’s because I want relief, not because it’s that pleasurable. The rule of thumb I’ve heard is that it’s about 1/4 as intense. But apparently experiences differ.
I find that the length of time experiencing an erection is correlated with the intensity of the climax.
There is also (as Playboy magazine once said) a definite appreciation of fluid volume. One way to “milk” the glands is to get close to climax… Then drop the whole affair, go and watch tv, let Old Rutherford droop to flaccidity. Repeat… When you finally go through with it, it’s better than it would have been if you simply went for it directly.
Also, one of the better ways to improve orgasms is to have them less often. Wait a week, and then let fly: the result is impressive. Wait a month… Um… I don’t think I’ve ever waited a month…
In my case getting older has extended the length of my orgasm, the problem I have now is keeping up the pace required to keep the orgasm flowing. I have never timed one but I suspect about 1 minute for a prolonged one. Another thing I feel like might extend an orgasm is letting go with the oral sounds of almost like a growl, hard to do when kids are at home though. Maybe TMI but I find when I just throw my head back and let the sounds come out as they may it seems to increase the time and intensity. I didn’t discover that until I was allready getting older so I have no idea if it would have helped when I was younger.
We had an extended period of foreplay on the road from Glasgow to Billings – a couple hundred miles of largely uninteresting terrain – but when it came to consummating a day’s worth of excitement, the result was kind of meh. I suspect the threshold for full-on foreplay maxes out around two to three hours.
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I’m in such a completely different mindset a few seconds after orgasm that it’s hard for me to see the point in extending it. It seems like the most important thing in world right before it happens, and then a moment later I feel guilty for putting any effort into having one.