So if a person never marries, that person can’t have a sex life.
No, unmarried people can have all the sex they want, its not my business. I highly recommend many books by Michelle McKinney Hammond, who gave me these ideas for women to have self-respect. And, I am very happy thanks.
It’s not your business but you think it’s wrong. No one accused you of being in the sex stopping business.
So women’s self respect is tied into not having sex before marriage? You can’t have self-respect if you have sex? Does the self-respect start at the I Do or is it when the marriage license is signed?
I was raised in a very secular Jewish family, as was my wife until she was 11 when her parents divorced and her mother married a very religious man. But we were both atheists. Nonetheless, for no good reason except that casual sex was not much practiced in the early 60s, we were both virgins on our wedding night. Not that we didn’t come to enjoy sex a great deal. Our 56th anniversary is in less than a month.
I guess we know how you’ll be spending your anniversary!
Me - I’m a man and I’m well aware that if I had a kid out of wedlock I’d be shafted on child support and shafted on custody - not that I want to have to deal with raising a baby on my own anyway, even part-time. Of course, having seen what’s happened to both my brother and my best friend, I’m not sure being married would really easy my worries either. (Both of them got married, had a kid, and then the woman instigated a divorce. In my friend’s case the divorce happened within weeks of getting out of the hospital and I can’t shake the idea that getting child support was the long game all along.)
And aside from the paranoia and cynicism described above, I also have a sentimental side that wants to save the intimate physical stuff for somebody I actually love. And yes, I know I will never meet such a person.
Jeez, how much is she getting? Plus it does come with a massive drawback…
The current Girl Wonder was a virgin when we started going out. Her decision wasn’t religious-based. It was more of a situation where she had built it up in her head as an act between a long-dedicated couple. She’d never even French-kissed or anything.
We’re engaged, and those old taboos no longer exist. We have an I-assume-normal sex life.
ETA: She was 30 when we were first together. That was last year.
Author of 101 Ways to Get His Attention. That’s real self respect, right there. Leader of a ministry. Uh huh.
My daughters had plenty of self respect before they got married and still have it. And I’m happy to say they are both atheists so they weren’t affected by any of your religious bullstuff.