I was omce having a casual affair with a girl, who then called it quits. She said “You don’t know how to play the game – if you did, you could still have me.”
“Anyone know people who play relationship games like playing hard to get or have sex?”
How to parse this?
“Anyone know people who (play relationship games like playing hard to get) or (have sex)?”
or
“Anyone know people who play relationship games like playing hard to (get or have) sex?”
I’d like to learn the relationship game “get or have sex.” I’ll play hard, I promise!
Well, considering how ‘or’ works, that latter one becomes:
“Anyone know people who play relationship games like playing hard to (have) sex?”
If the game involves sex that is difficult to have, I’m not sure I want to play.
As noted elsewhere, it has been a long time since I had to find a romantic relationship, but FWIW I don’t see any difference between “playing hard to get” and “being hard to get”. High-maintenance ain’t worth it.
Regards,
Shodan
I think it is all part of relationship “games” women (and men) play.
I went out with a lady for awhile, didn’t play hard to get as we were set up on a blind date and hit it off. After a few months and we would go out or I would meet her somewhere and she would be talking to other men and not making them aware that she was with somebody (me) and let them flirt with her. Did it kind of piss me off? Yes. But I didn’t say or do anything. She was playing a game of trying to make jealous so I would come and save her and put the other guy in his place. I finally got fed up and walked out of the bar one night. She called, I told her she wasn’t worth fighting over if she was going to continuously try to to pit me against other guys to prove my love for her. Told her we were done, end of story. She stopped by shortly after that (within 10 minutes) asking why?, why? Told her I couldn’t trust her if she was going to purposely flirt with other men and we were done. Goodbye and leave me alone.
Talked to the mutual acquaintance that set us up a few weeks later about what happened and she still didn’t know what she did wrong as she “did that to all the guys” she dated and seen nothing wrong with it.
Oh, good grief.
She likes to talk to more than one person when she’s at parties and similar gatherings. You objected to this, but you didn’t bother to discuss it with her; you just stayed angry about it until you blew up and broke up with her over it.
This entire business about ‘she was doing it as a mind game to make me jealous’ is out of your own head. Lots of people like to talk to various people when they’re among social groups, and few of them bother to preface every such conversation with ‘I’m currently the property of X so don’t get any ideas’.
If you don’t want anyone you’re going with to ever talk to other men in public, you’re the one who’s out of line here. If you can’t tell whether she’s seriously trying to come on to other men, then you need to use your words and ask her. If she is trying to come on to other men, then you need to have an actual conversation about only wanting a monogamous relationship and whether she’s up for that. If she isn’t interested in being monogamous and that’s what you want, that is indeed a reason to break up with her; but ‘I’m going to assume she’s playing head games instead of talking with her’ is a lot better reason for her to break up with you than the other way around.
What is the difference between conversation and flirting? Conversation would be her talking to a guy and acknowledging me when I was there and obvious “personal space” between the 2 people. Flirting is her hand on his back, his hand on her knee, and and the twirling of her hair while talking to him. She was doing the 2nd, why would I be upset?
Then why wouldn’t you talk to her?
Me too.
Did it ever occur to either of you that she was just being friendly?Making sure he was invited to the party? Encouraging a shy classmate to socialize?
If men would just view us as humans, instead of video games with only one set next level to be reached, we would all be a lot happier.
Good lord. OP, if this is happening to you a lot, I’d give serious consideration to the possibility that her interest in you just dropped off 30 minutes into your monologue, and adjust your technique accordingly instead of blaming her.
When I was single, I flirted with a lot of guys I found attractive, but pulled back once I got a better sense of who they were. That’s not game-playing; that’s straight-up rejection. Sorry.
Here, I punctuated a sentence for you. Kinda turned it into a free-verse poem, actually:
Also in relation
To sex (of course):
People
want to get married
and have sex…
…But some people do “things”
that are a bit odd,
Such as:
Younger women - or teenagers at parties!
where they meet boys.
And they invite them to parties.
Wear sexy clothes.
Entice them to kiss.
And then send them packing.
And alot of this
- done by girls -
Can be very confusing for boys.
But I want to know more
About why girls do this
and play various games like this.
And also some people
like to talk to people
who are interested in certain women
And say, “She’s way out of your league!”
It might be because they really think she is.
Or, just to annoy the other person.
And why people want to have sex?
But play games to make it difficult
for them
to get with them.
And are there different reasons for it
and things like this?