[Joey Treviani]
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I can usually tell a woman is aroused because she’s paying a lot of attention to me. She wouldn’t be looking around or reorganizing her purse, she’d be talking to me, looking at me, getting closer to me, etc. Theres not exactly an indicator light or anything…
Check her moan level (hormone).
“Like I said, women are always aroused.”
I read that’s true of guys too, but the brain creates chemicals so he doesn’t walk around all the time with a woody. It was on tv, though.
Hm, body language is generally much harder to fake, because it is very hard to get all your nonverbal cues coordinated. Most likely you will be sending out conflicting cues.
Also, some cues are impossible to fake - such as pupil dilatating.
When a woman screams “Come on big boy, make me have it” she is usually aroused…one way or another 
Sinshine are you actually saying that perfume being put on those certain places (wrist, behind ear) actually do something??
Thats incredible!! If thats for real, i’d say thats the best indicator!
Oh and pkbites… :eek: thats odd and arousing.
When my GF starts shedding mine, I normally take it as a sure sign.
Try asking her, “Hey, are you sexually aroused?”
Or, as a certain secret agent would say. “Hey, Baby! Are you HORNY?”
“Ooooooh! Do you have these in a size five, beige?”
Has anyone else ever got all the signals and then found that they were false positives?
When I was single, there was this one girl who had already (by email) expressed a willingness to engage in sexual congress with me. She came over from England to the US, where I was living, for a vacation. She suggested that we go off to New England together for a week. I agreed! The first hotel we got to, the clerk said “two single beds or a double?” I left the answer up to her and she said “double”. We spent a couple evenings getting drunk and frisky and (as far as I was concerned) flirting. We were getting on amazingly well - never running out of things to say, lots of excellent conversation. She was doing the touching thing, the pupils were dilated, she was laughing at my jokes, playing with her hair. We went back to the motel and had a pillow fight in our underwear. On day 3, I made my move and was solidly rejected. Day 4, I made another move - same thing. Day 5, same thing. I gave up. When we got back to CT, she went off to Manhattan for a night and slept with someone else. It was really depressing.
WTF was that all about?!?! 
Ever hear of a “cock-tease”?
Maybe you should have taken your underwear off for the pillowfight…
I’ll go with this assessment.
Just because arousal signs exist in a woman doesn’t mean you will be the one she will want to screw (sadly enough). Besides, many of the arousal signs are too subtle to pick up reliably. Playing with hair? As previously noted this might or might not indicate something (for me telling the difference is usually a change in how the hair is played with [I thought about this some more since my last post]). Dilated pupils might have other causes (alcohol for instance which can aslo induce a blush response). Enlarged breasts are difficult to spot as they are usually constrained by a bra (not to mention getting a good, long look is somewhat diificult to pull off without being overly crude). Laughing at dumb jokes might be simple friendliness or politeness. Touching might come from someone who is simply a touchy-feely person.
I’m not dumping on all the signs but they are part of a whole and even then it is a dicey thing at best. Being human people can dissemble and lead you astray…intentionally or not. I’ve had plenty of times myself where I thought things were going grand and the chick slept with someone else (so I sympathize with the incredible frustration this leads to). A few times some other shmuck besides me got sidelined and I got laid. Women are strange creatures and there are no pat answers. Just hang in there and try not to sweat the screwy stuff women throw at you now and again.
Never fear…every dog has his day.
Now, if a girl has her legs around your hips, and one of her muscles contracts (the same one guys would use to force out a bit more urine,) is that a sign of arousal? Or just a sign she needs to get a better grip?
Actually, Teelo, what I am saying is quite less than that. I am saying that I have noticed that a sudden state of arousal tends to cause one’s deliberately applied perfumes to become more noticeable, and wonder if others have noticed the same thing. If they have, then maybe there is something to it. But then again, maybe I’m just good at sniffing out sexy thoughts.
jjim
There is a guy with a talk show, and a web (cite below) page that offers answers to questions like this. I’m guessing that if you were asked Dr. Love the same question, he would categorize her as either a Overia Mercenaria (Ovary Mercenary) or a Queen Bee. I can’t actually diagnose, as I’m not the Doctor… but I have his link!!!
AskDrLove Either way, there wasn’t much of a chance of you and the lady enjoying the event she was was holding you hostage with.
Here is why,
The former (OM) is looking to trade her (uhmmm) for a nice secure life, sans love and all that, as that is not important to her. She is out to get what she wants, the heck with you. She will, however, according to the good Doctor, partake in arousal, and the subsequent events, (albeit rarely)with an appropriate target, until married. Then that dries up to a “seldom if ever”, or “I need a new car” thing. Otherwise she becomes the pretty little item on a mantle.
The latter type (QB) is surrounded by men. She is constantly asking for favors just to see them compete. She referrs to her men with comments like “oh he’s so nice” as they follow her every move. She constantly entices them to fly in their mating pattern around her, waiting to get the word that they they are the lucky one selected to mate the queen. However, According to Dr. Love, she just keeps the worker bees scurrying around luckless. She prefers to live a celibate life in the company of all the suitors, and will most like never slow down long enough for one to pounce on her. He advises “get the heck out” as soon as possible, because there isn’t going to be much celebrating here.
I’m no expert, but I would venture a guess that she was the Queen Bee type. If so, you’re better without her.
No…that is not necessarily a sign of arousal but givent he position you describe one would hope arousal is present and most likely is unless you’re a goof.
The muscle contractions I was mentioning earlier are rhythmic and pretty much involuntary when they occur. If you’ve ever had an orgasm you know what this is (these contractions in a male is ejaculation so it is especially hard to miss but women most definitely have them too).
Yeah, well in the Genesis song quoted above, the hapless would-be lover fails to score. "I got unexpected distress from my mistress / I’ll get my money back from the bookstore right away." He was trying to make love according to a book he had read, but didn’t understand real-life women. So you might be right.
I know! I know! Pick me!!
In which Sinshine slinks off in search of involuntary internal rhythmic muscle contractions
Actually, (most) women are capable of a wider range of orgasmic response than men seem to be, unless I missed something in my travels. I, for one, while quite capable of the take-your-body-over type of contractions referenced above, have experienced some mind-blowing sensations which resulted in my partner wondering if I was faking, while I was too busy enjoying to bother with the Sally routine.
So, if I can experience something orgasmic without the contractions, can men experience something orgasmic without the ejaculation?
Those who follow tantric sex would answer an emphatic yes to this for both women and men. Done properly an orgasm is a tiny part of the whole sexual experience (although still satisfying and worthwhile). Perhaps you inadvertantly stumbled or lucked into this aspect of sex. However, I would say an orgasm by definition includes certain physiological responses which would include muscle contractions. As you yourself noted you experienced something orgasmin (or akin to an orgasm) without actually having one. Mind you I’m not knocking it…sounds excellent!
Sex?
Yes, please…