Let me preface this by saying that, yes, I recognize the AOL crowd is rife for taunting, and for good reason, but still, it irritates me when common sense does not prevail. To wit:
[ul][li]My profile clearly indicates I live in San Diego, California. Why, then, are you IMing me when you live in Arkansas? Kansas? Boston? Florida? Europe? Chatting is all well and good, but this never seems to be the case - you want to start some meaningful dialogue that will someday blossom into a cross-country romance. I hate to tell you this, but it ain’t gonna happen. My hands are already too full locally. So, please, don’t IM me unless you’re coming to town to visit and need a tour guide.[/li]
[li]My profile clearly indicates that I do not meet without a face pic. So, since you don’t have one, why did you IM me to see if I wanted to hook up? And your pic of your dick is lovely, but, really, I’ve seen them all before. The thing that most turns me on about a man is his face, and that’s why, again, I clearly tell you I want a face pic. If you have some kind of bizarre phobia about people somehow altering your face shot and somehow completely ruining your life, then take your paranoia elsewhere.[/li]
[li]If you’re not interested, just say so. Silence after trading pics is inexhorably rude. I’m a big boy, and I’ve been turned down by far, far better than you and survived just fine. Similarly, if we exchange pics and I’m not interested, I will tell you so - telling me to “fuck off” is equally as rude. I was honest and not rude to you, so being similarly so isn’t so much to ask.[/li]
[li]My profile clearly states that I am looking for whatever life offers up - chatting online, hooking up, meeting for coffee, making friends/friends with special privileges, going on a date, finding a boyfriend, or meeting Mr. Right. So if we chat, please do not assume that all I am looking for is sex, 'cause I’m not. Would I turn you down if I was attracted and you offered? Probably not. But it’s not a requirement - I’m new in town, and friends are always welcomed. It would be nice, at least in this instance, to actually be taken at face value.[/li]
[li]“Trading pics” means exactly that - trade. It does not mean “send me yours and I’ll send mine back only if I’m interested.” And don’t get pissed off if I inform the entire chat room of the fact that you do, indeed, lie about this. Sending your pic followed by a, “Thanks, but no thanks” is perfectly acceptable (see above - I’m a big boy).[/ul][/li]
I think that’s it - for now.
Before anyone starts noting all the exceptions to the above rules, I know exceptions do exist (for example, my housemates met online, and they lived in California and Pennsylvania at the time, so internet cross-country romances are certainly possible - not, however, for me personally). I’m just bitching - people piss me off. I’m sure others have had similar experiences. The anonymity of the internet seems to give some people free reign to be jackasses, and although I know this is hardly news to any of us, as has been noted, I’ve been a cranky bitch of late, so I feel like venting. So nyeh.