You’d figure that extra strength and physical endurance would count for something in the sack.
Have you ever screwed a jock? How did the experience rate?
About 11/10. 
I once dated a gymnist who was incredible…limber, firm…
I gave her a 9.5
Pointed her toes a lot. And the full, twisting dismounts were something else, especially when she “stuck” the landing.
I once knew a woman who dated a bodybuilder. This guy would spend 3-4 hours a day in the gym-and probably used steroids. According to her, this guy was the worst lover she ever had. Most of the time he would fall asleep!
Musta been those steroids!
A few questions, Choosybeggar: Why would “extra strength” be of importance in sex? And how much does one really need? Doesn’t this perspective fly against everything we’ve learned re: the art of pleasuring (for lack of a better term) as involving finesse and intelligence far more than brute strength?
Two, I don’t hear many men complaining of their women lacking “physicial endurance” in the bedroom. Interest, perhaps. Endurance, no. On the other hand, many women may wish their men had more staying power (ability to delay orgasm), but this has nothing to do with cardiovascular endurance.
Not necessarily. I think healthy attitude towards sex and consideration for your partner are the keys to good sex. Not physical fitness or conditioning. And as tsunami points out, being in shape doesn’t solve problems like, say, premature ejaculation.
I’ve dated a lot of rugby players.
The other problem with dating athletes is that some of them believe that “No sex the night before a game because it will give you shaky legs” crap.
I dunno as well , i hear about people who having sex makes them extremely breathless and unable to continue , and physical strength could also be a factor in positions like the wall , free standing (when her legs are wrapped around you backfacing you or otherwise) ahem uh i’ll shut up now
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I think extra strength (of the non-brute variety) and training can improve physical finesse. Witness ballerinas and martial arts grandmasters.
Point taken. However, my most, uh, memorable experiences have been marathon in duration. Would top-flite fitness of myself and my partner have improved upon this?
If you are a lousy lay in the first place by not knowing what to do and how to do it, it’s not going to matter if you are in shape or not. You’ll just be a lousy lay that doesn’t tire out as quickly, which if you are bad, can make it even worse. Having good abilities though, and the endurance to use them longer, can rank you much higher. I was a lot more fun I’m sure, when I was in great condition, compared to how I am now, which is one reason why I’m starting to get in shape again. With talent being equal, people would much rather have a partner that can talk to them and hear them after a while than a slob who is wheezing, coughing and panting.
I’ve slept with both athletes and non-athletes, and I find that mental attributes are far more important in making someone a good lover than physical ones.
I had sex with a soccer player who just wanted to twist me into outlandish positions, so I can’t say I appreciated his strength or stamina…I just wanted to get my feet back below head-level…
I had sex with a marathon runner one time. That was weird because his heart rate never accelerated perceptibly and I don’t think he broke a sweat. (His resting heart rate was about 45.) He said he enjoyed it, though. This guy ran twenty miles a day–8 in the morning and 12 after work.
On the other hand, I’m athletic, which is supposed to make me, uhm, tighter.
No. Musicians are.
I second musicians. Especially (IMO) those who play keyboard instruments or stringed instruments.
(You don’t have to have sexual intercourse to have a lover.)
In my experience, the more physically fit the man, the worse he is in bed. I think it has something to do with the narcissim inherent in thinking too much about your own body.
I’ll take a computer nerd or sensitve, creative type any day.
My husband claims that nerds make good lovers because they fantasize about sex all the time but get it so rarely that they really put heart, soul, and all that creative fantasizing into it when they get the chance.
Generally agreed, Turbo, but we’re talking about people in average shape and condition, which precludes wheezing, coughing and panting.
Choosybeggar, I think too many men mistakingly believe that women lust for men who will, um, bang them like some porn version of a mechanical bull. Some women, do, sure, but most want the kind of sexual “finesse” that cannot be learned in a gym, in a dojo, or on a balance beam. (Done on a balance beam, yes. Learned, no.)
God bless your husband. The man has is destined to greatness in politics or advertising.
Im voting for not. Mostly cause all the women I know who are going to the gym aren’t having sex or at least they don’t have boyfriends, which would be the same thing, right?
BTW PC, I laughed out loud at your contribution.
If a man’s only exercise at all is sex, I don’t want to have sex with him.
For God’s sake, he needs to have the strength to hold his weight off me when we’re in missionary position. “I just want to be close to you” is a pitiful excuse for crushing me with your flabby body.
I’m counting anyone who keeps himself fit as an athlete.
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Bodybuilding/weightlifting enthusiasts are people willing to spend hours in a gym every day. If we’re talking about them here, than we’re not quite speaking of normal people. - MC
- This gets into a personal response, because some people will always take it badly no matter the answer one gives,
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