I’d like to think so , using my self as a prime example. When some one trusts me to do something, it gets done. I do not play about, especially where children are concerned.
Same here, but that was true from the time I was a kid up through when I got married and today. I did not become more trustworthy or better at childcare after I got married! Why would married people be more trustworthy? What happens to them between the day before they get married and the day of to make them moreso? I just don’t believe that any group of people is more trustworthy than another; it’s a function of an individual person, as far as I can tell.
Good point.
Another vote for maybe the two dogs rather than the marriage and two kids that influenced your mother’s response.
However, married men with children are more reliable, on the average; they have the responsibility for the children, the responsibility to the spouse, and fewer opportunities to disappear overnight. There is also another person who can probably tracked them down if they do disappear, and take care of your dogs in the meantime.
More trustworthy? Probably not.
They don’t necessarily get more trustworthy, but some of what they do gets overseen by another person. so you get, as it were, two kicks at the trustworthiness can.
Put it this way: the married guy may be just as much of a drooling pervert as the unmarried guy living alone, but the latter has more chance of putting his perversion into bad action than the former - he doesn’t have to worry about his wife walking on on whatever nasty stuff he’s doing.
I would think it weird if you distrusted the single guy with dogs more than the married guy without dogs or kids. But it sounds like you and your mother assumed it would be okay because the evidence is stacked in that guy’s favour - however he does it, he’s kept two kids and two dogs alive. (Of course, maybe he lost his third and fourth children in the supermarket. :))
I can see your point. But on the other hand, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve walked in on my wife watching some MTV show with my niece in the room. AGGGGGGG!!!
I guess the theory is that a married man has convinced at least one woman that he’s trustworthy. Of course, this theory breaks down if your neighbours were Paul Bernardo and Karla Homolka.
He’s not more inherently trustworthy per se, but he is more accountable. Along the same lines, bail and visas are given out more readily to those with ‘community ties’.