I’m closing this topic. I think the OP has gotten responses to his questions, and advice, and either he’ll follow it or he won’t. But at this point I think the risk of this thread devolving into bashing (bashing the OP, bashing the OPs’ ex, bashing women, bashing men) is just to high, and the value of additional comments doesn’t outweigh that. We’ve already seen a lot of borderline stuff.