Are women more thoughtfull than men?

Women tend to be more emotional then men in my experience (not putting a value on that… simply stating an hypothesis), but are women as a whole more thought full then men?

What do you mean by thoughtful? Do you mean it the colloquial way that is basically a synonym for “considerate of other people’s feelings?” or are you suggesting that women might actually use their brains more than men?

If you are talking about “considerate of other people’s feelings”, then in my experience it’s true that women are more thoughtful. Women don’t have an exclusive on that, but it swings in their favor.

Well for one thing, I don’t think that women are “more emotional” than men. They just tend to be more open about many of their emotions, and a lot of men make a fetish of pretending that their emotional behavior is rational when it isn’t.

As for “thoughtful”, I’d have to know what was meant by that.

Thoughtful about what?

I would say that (on average) women tend to ponder more about how their immediate actions will affect others feelings and how to best main social relationships than men do.

I think men (on average) tend to have a more dispassionate, results oriented, and longer term macro view about how things will pan out.

Having said this there are obviously men and women who approach problem solving and analysis 180 degrees differently from their gender stereotypes above so individual variation is a lot more important than averages.

As a generalisation, yes. Women dominate frequency of philanthropic giving, and they tend to respond to exhibit stronger compassion and consideration of others.

I think both genders are equally self-absorbed. Most people are not thoughtful.

Men and women are equally [insert character trait here]. I do not have a cite for that, though.

And more sadism, both emotional and physical. “Caring about other people” is only a good thing if the person doing the caring means well towards the people in question. Women are both nastier and nicer than men that way, depending on their personal feelings and ethics.

Women form a substanstial majority of Conservative party voters, and without female votes we would have had almost solid socialist government since the War. The nickname of the Conservative, or Tory, party is “The Nasty Party”.

I am therefore unconvinced.

I think an old Seinfeld discussion summed it up well: men give wedgies, whereas women tease someone until she develops an eating disorder. The ratio of good/bad people in both genders is the same, they just use different methods.

Or another way I’ve heard it put; a male murderer will kill you. A female murderer will quite often kill the people you love.

Regarding philanthropy it might not be quite that simple (cite).

But I would agree that women are more thoughtful in general than guys, if by thoughtful we mean they think more about other people’s mental state without those other people needing to spell it out for them.

If we mean thoughtful as in considerate, that’s a much tougher call for me.

I think women have stronger incentives to be aware of social cues: behavior that is “clueless” or “awkward” in a man is "bitchy’ or “selfish” in a woman.

You see this within a lot of family dynamics: mothers and daughters (and female in-laws) are responsible for monitoring other’s feelings, making sure everyone is included, extending invitations, etc., in a way men are often not. A son-in-law who doesn’t show up to family gatherings is “uncomfortable in social situations”; a daughter-in-law who doesn’t show up is “aloof” or “stand-offish” or “doesn’t like us”.

Because women are more likely to be penalized for not being aware of other people and missing social cues means they are more likely to learn to notice these things.

Actually it’s my understanding that the evidence is quite strong that female social skills have a major inborn, genetic component. Passed down in the paternal X chromosome in fact; women that have a genetic disorder that inactivates one of their X chromosomes have a level of social skills determined according to whether the maternal or paternal X chromosome is disabled. Ones with the paternal X disabled average only about as good as men, while ones with the maternal X disabled average as good as normal women.

You don’t have to take differences between men and women to an extreme. With different physiologies you’d expect some differences, but it doesn’t have to be ‘all men do this’ and ‘all women do that’. The differences will usually be a tendency one way or another, with a lot of people overlapping in the middle.

My question is are they more analytical then men as a whole.

Thank you everyone for your comments, I enjoyed reading them.

More thoughtful? Of course they are, more thoughtful in how they will emotionally manipulate you. :smiley:

Maybe it’s just me, but thoughtful comes across as a completely different thing than analytical, almost opposites, even. It really changes the question you’re asking.