Unfortunately yeah, I think you were being a bit rude; ultimately for me it comes down to consideration for others and awareness that there are differences between people and your way of socializing is not the only viable way. Lots of possibilities were mentioned already; perhaps she has social anxiety and feels like she gets lost in too much of a group setting. Perhaps she doesn’t actually like the people you invite along, but just pretends she does for the sake of not seeming like a bitch. Or perhaps she just doesn’t like surprises. I personally like smaller groups, but wouldn’t be outraged if someone randomly showed up at my bar gathering (unless I hated them). I would be annoyed if someone invited someone else to my gathering without asking me, though. Whatever the deal, I’m not her, and neither is anyone else here (probably :)).
I’d also curb explaining to other people why you think she doesn’t want them along until you know for sure. It might be specific and you might be making her look bad for the wrong reasons (which if I were her would actually piss me off more than the initial issue).
Wow. And guys who are married to or dating hot, brilliant, motivated chicks who are sexually giving and unfailingly pleasant to be around can still figure they can have all that and still get some on the side, too.
Oops! posted my last post in the wrong thread, obviously. Would someone like to report it?
Yeah, well… some guys are freakin’ idiots.
But since I don’t know (or, frankly, care) what goes on in their bedroom, I’m not going to judge his action based on how hot his wife is. There’s plenty of reasons to condemn him without pulling out the “but his wife is totally bangable” thing
Ha! The perfect justification for the Mrs. S to take one of the recommended hammers and apply it directly to the forehead.
Actually, what I think is that we’d all be better off if the whole world didn’t consider themselves experts on everyone else’s marital relationships.
If your job isn’t paying enough, you’re quite likely to start moonlighting at another job. Analogy needs work.
Your basic point is sound, of course. Not to mention how many people, and not just cheaters, whine about their “needs” when they really mean their “wants”.
As for Spitzer, look, even if it was his wife’s fault he ran with hookers (which I don’t believe it is), his stupidity is all his own. Relationships can be patched up, but dumb is for keeps.
Haha!