Since I’m straight, the only situation I can imagine passionately kissing another man is if I were an actor, playing a gay man. Eric Stonestreet on Modern Family, for example; if I were him, I’d have no problem deep-kissing Jesse Tyler Ferguson. So no, I’m not disgusted at the thought of making out with another man. Nor cuddling, or holding hands, or anything romantic. I probably wouldn’t have sex with a guy, but only because wangs don’t get my motor running, and I doubt I could make my little soldier stand at attention.
I’m just slightly toward the heterosexual end of the scale. I could probably get away with calling myself straight, because I’m married to a man, and we are monogamous, but I have dated women, and had one relationship with a woman that lasted several months. I’ve never been tested, though, so I can’t give you a number.
I just wanted to put in my 2 cents, since people have mentioned whether or not they came from affectionate families, and how they feel about kissing anyone they aren’t attracted to.
I come from a pretty affectionate family. I also have done some kissing for theater, including some improv, so it was people whom I did not dislike, but for whom I had no attraction, yet I didn’t feel repulsed by making out with them.
Anyway, I wonder if your level of comfort with being touched isn’t at least as important if not more, than your Kinsey number in determining whether you get squicked out by the idea of kissing you non-preferred gender.
The only thing that squicks me out is kissing a guy with a full beard. Just does. The seem unsanitary. I had a Giant Schnauzer, and we had to wash her face every day, or her muzzle smelled like mildew and old rawhide. I’m always imagining kissing a beard and finding out what he had at his last meal.*
I also don’t care for kissing smokers.
*Apologies to guys with beards-- I know this isn’t the reality, and it’s my own hang-up, but there it is.
Could someone clarify what is meant by the Kinsey test? The Kinsey site says there is no test, it’s a scale which is based on one’s past sexual history. So how does one get an F on the test if there is no test?
Per my job, I’ve had my fingers three knuckles deep in the assholes of relative strangers, of both genders and all ages. You’re going to have to try harder to disgust me.
However, I did a lot of identifying as bisexual in my 20s, and though I no longer do that, I’m not sure I’m the best person to answer. But sure, I’d kiss a girl. Romantically, even.
There exist a set of questions (linked earlier in this thread, I believe, and obviously pertaining to past sexual/romantic behaviour), that based on your answers attempt to place you at some point on the Kinsey scale. In the case where you do not fit relatively neatly into one of Kinsey’s categories, the test in question returns an “F”, which essentially is to be interpreted as a “defies categorization.”
It should also be pointed out that “sexual history” should be understood rather loosely for the purposes of the Kinsey scale. It is perfectly possible to be a male 3 on the Kinsey scale without ever having had intimate relations with a man, provided that you, to put it bluntly, think about dicks often enough.
This. My score, unsurprisingly, was that I’m as gay as an Easter bonnet.
I enjoy kissing my husband probably even more than having sex with him. I’ve always enjoyed kissing, especially once I learned how to do it properly. I could probably deep-kiss one of his sisters, to whom I’m very close, but I think we’d start to giggle half-way through.
I come from a very hands-off family. I never saw my parents kiss, dance, or even hold hands. They were more like siblings than spouses. I can’t imagine kissing my brother.
“Mind you, back in those days we would indicate that we were available by wearing an onion on our belts, which was the style at the time…”
Completely straight, but not disgusted by the thought of kissing a dude. For me it’s more an intimacy issue; passionately kissing someone of either gender I didn’t have at least some emotional connection to would make me uncomfortable.
Watching other people of any gender pairing kiss passionately also feels very awkward (in person; I’ve got no issues with TV/film kissing or indeed sex). I appear to be the rare straight man who is not turned on by lesbian sexy times.
Yeah, pretty much. It’s not a lot more than how I feel kissing anyone I’m strongly not attracted to, however. Even kissing a family member has a mixture of caring and loving and feeling a little bit of disgust.
This does not occur if I am sexually attracted to the person. Which has not happened to me when seeing anyone who presents as male. (I have been attracted to some genderqueer people, but I don’t know if it was sexual.)
I’ve kissed cisgender women, cisgender men, transgender women, transgender men, agender persons, intersex persons, etc. There may be some more “categories” I cannot remember. On the lips, or much more…
