So, I’m talking to some co-workers, and about 75% of them are headed on a bus to a male-stripper show this weekend… they even had t-shirts made up that read “Make It A Stiff One”. I’m listening and nodding as they talk about how much fun it will be and how they get to be in the front row! These are women ranging from 26-40. I’m in my mid-30’s, and I don’t find that REMOTELY interesting… that’s what is worrisome. When I was younger I may have joined, but I’m guessing I’ve either outgrown it, having kids has made me a dud, or I must accept the fact that my idea of fun is pulling weeds in the garden, heading to the park, reading a book, or having a meal with our family.
This isn’t the first time I’ve been surrounded by the “fun” group and felt funny, out of place… I feel like in order to be satisfied, it requires very little. The thoguht of that kind of stuff gives me a panic attack, but yet I feel complacent.
Anyone else satisfied with a low-level of stimulation?
I don’t really understand the hanging out with coworkers thing anyway. My coworkers do it all the time. I just want to go home. I am not unfriendly at all but I have to spend time with you already I don’t want to spend more.
As for the ‘fun’ life, actually there are times I miss it. I had a lot more active life before this relationship…but there is so much contenedness and happiness in this relationship it seems like a small price to pay.
I think you are mis-disgnosing the issue. Do you consider yourself an introvert? Preferring more introspective activities over party settings is usually a big sign.
I go out with (certain) co-workers maybe 3 or 4 times a month, and we typically go to bars. I don’t get panic attacks when in a room with many people, and we generally have a good time. What likely would give me a panic attack is to go see male strippers. Seriously now, that’s just pathetic.
I like to go out with my friends and colleagues a few times a month, usually for drinks. I like to go out to live music. I go to coffee shops and galleries. I also work out at the gym 5 nights a week, usually with friends. So I think I’m pretty outgoing. But the whole stripper thing… it’s just so… brain dead.
Depends. Sometimes I like going out drinking until 4am with my buddies. Other times I’d just rather go home, spend a quiet evening with the girlfriend and watch movies. As I get older, I find I tend towards the latter.
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Well…I don’t go to strip clubs to ask them for advice on my taxes.
The only problem I have when going out is making sure I don’t drink enough to be worthy of a DUI. I have no problem getting satisfaction in any social setting, although a strip club would probably leave me bored after a while, assuming I’m not getting any VIP treatment.
VIP treatment in a strip club is easy. There is the quick route which involves throwing around a lot of money. Then there is the slow route which involves throwing around zero money (other than maybe a few drinks and any cover charge) over a period of several weeks or months.
I am friends with a lot of my coworkers, but happy hours do nothing to me. 75% of the time I’m at a bar, I’ll end up ordering a Shirley Temple. People seem to get a kick out of the big black guy ordering a “girly,” non-alcoholic drink, but whatever. And it’s not that I have any objection to drinking, either; it just rarely, if ever, interests me.
Many of my friends who are in their mid- to late-30s are still into going clubbing. This, too, holds no interest for me. Clubbing has never held an interest for me. I’m not much of a dancer, so I’d just end up looking for a seat somewhere while I drink my Shirley Temple and try to keep the music from giving me a headache. Generally, I politely decline.
I enjoy going to dinner with friends. I like going bowling. I like playing tennis. I like going to a movie. I like staying at home and talking to my girlfriend or watching sports or putzing on the computer. I do not lead a thrilling life. I’m OK with that.
I am friends with a lot of my coworkers, but happy hours do nothing to me. 75% of the time I’m at a bar, I’ll end up ordering a Shirley Temple. People seem to get a kick out of the big black guy ordering a “girly,” non-alcoholic drink, but whatever. And it’s not that I have any objection to drinking, either; it just rarely, if ever, interests me.
Many of my friends who are in their mid- to late-30s are still into going clubbing. This, too, holds no interest for me. Clubbing has never held an interest for me. I’m not much of a dancer, so I’d just end up looking for a seat somewhere while I drink my Shirley Temple and try to keep the music from giving me a headache. Generally, I politely decline.
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I don’t like clubs. First of all, I think they attract a douchey element. Second of all, I don’t like the idea of having to wait in a long line where some meathead working his second job outside of Gold’s Gym will decide if I am “cool” enough to get stuffed into a crowded room full of previously mentioned douchey element.
I would much rather hang out in a cool bar with people who are actually cool.
I still like staying up late drinking with friends. Not getting absolutely wasted per se. Just hanging out having a good time.
Years ago I went with the girls after work to see the Chippendale’s. I was hoarse the next day from trying to talk over the music.
I felt like the guys were not straight so that kind of killed the fantasy for me. I am a woman and I am not visual like guys are and if the guy isn’t mine I find very little interest. Would I ever go again? No.
I prefer going to a good show or going to see music but half naked strippers, Nope.
I’m a woman in my late 20s, I love sex, and I have absolutely *no *desire to go to a strip club. I also dislike loud bars full of douchebags. (I do, however, enjoy loud shows in small venues.)
