Ask the bisexual male teenager

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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One reason I prefer to believe in a reality where their is no god is because according to nearly every christian I’ve ever spoken to, about tragedy, has told me that “God is just testing you.” Yeah, thanks God. You killed my grandparents, made me lose my job, and gave me cancer. Thankfully you’re just testing me.*

What about those who can’t take this “testing”? They’re humans, imperfect. To place such stress under people below him, god is asking too much. If he does exist.

Basically, God is a little too cruel for someone who is supposed to be prety nice.

*Not actually me

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Basically, I would prefer better reasoning for me to believe in him. He’s presented as loving but he sure does some strange things out of his love.

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Aah! You sound almost exactly like me when I was your age (except I didn’t realize I was bi until I was 16, but thats another story). Believe me, your beliefs and ideas (note: not sexuality, beliefs and ideas) will change, and change again, then they will revert back to your original beliefs. Basically, you’re in for a ride. But, of course, being a mature, insightful teen (like someone else I know) you probably expected that…right?

BTW, I’m 18 now, and about to enter university, and I still don’t know what I want to do with my life, or what I belive in. So much for being a grown up when you graduate High School :rolleyes:

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I’ll be away from the computer for most of the weekend. You can still ask questions, just don’t expect any answers until Sunday or Monday. :slight_smile:

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Ever done drugs?

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Have you ever been reading, and caught a motion out of the corner of your eye, in a house that you know you have entirely to yourself? A tiny motion, but unmistakeable, something small, skittering past your field of vision? Larger, probably, than a mouse, but smaller than a housecat, an almost indistinguishable shade of grey? Ever notice a faint smell of pineapple in the air after that, a skittering noise in a nearby wall, and a vague sense of ominous unease right after that happens?

What are those things?

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When I get older losing my hair, many years from now, will you still sending me a Valentine, birthday greetings, bottle of wine?

If I’d been out till quarter to three, would you lock the door?
Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m sixty-four?

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Well, sorta. I’ve done lots of prescribed, legal drugs. :wink: However one time I did sniff some pot fumes, and I got really stoned. I don’t think I’d want to actually go and smoke anything real, as I’d imagine I would become catatonic. The time I was stoned wasn’t so good. The only real good part was being able to draw slightly better than I was before.

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Yep. I’d say that it’s some sort of brain malfunction, something to account for that area that you’re not paying much attention to. It happens more when I’m looking at something closer than I should or something that has a lot of motions. Never smelt anything, of anything of a fruit nature or anything that has a noticeable scent. I have experinced a skittering sort of noise in the walls of my room, especially back when I was having " Paranormal experinces", which I’ll explain in a thread someday(I promise).

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I’ll be certainly doing that when you’re 64, and even more, I’ll be sending a valentine, birthday wishes or a bottle of wine, even at 79 that’d be fine.

I’d lock the door, because thieves I do deplore, taking the valuables or more.

:eek: I sure can rap! Perhaps I could be the next superstar? :rolleyes:

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I’ve always thought it could possibly be the brain filling in the part of your field of vision that would otherwise be blank. IIRC from my Psych 101 course, there’s a gap in the back of your eye where the receptor neurons that catch light focused by the lens feed into your main neural system. Hence, there’s a small portion of light that isn’t getting received by any neurons and your brain simply fills in what it thinks should be there. You only end up realizing it when you a) know that its there and b) are looking at something which causes the brain to mess up substituting. Plus, its on the periphery of your vision, so you normally would just glaze it over anyway.

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Here’s my stunning sodomite of the sdmb profile page, if anybodys interested. Don’t I like stunning, especially with the way the armbands match my eyes? :smiley: Oh, and I got if you don’t know i won’t tell to submit a profile, so you’ll probably seeing that soon.

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Are you a top or a bottom with a guy? With a girl, are you the dominant or submissive?

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I suppose, as this is theoretical(unfortunately I’ve yet to get a girlfriend or a boyfriend), that for male and female I would prefer to be the top. I think it might have to do with me not being in control in general(because of my age) and unfortunately not being in control over somethings that I should(operative should, but it wasn’t. See my pit thread, ‘the art of being a jackass’. I don’t want to dig it out, again, it gives me bad memories.)

Thanks for the question!

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I found out recently that my brother’s wife’s brother, a writer, is bisexual. I knew he wrote erotic fiction (amongst many other genres he writes) and I’d read some of his gay erotic fiction. I’m gay myself, and a lot of my friends will take this sort of thing to mean automatically that he is gay. I’m gay myself, and I’d always felt close to him, out of all of my family, even my immediate family.
We’d do social things together, or I’d go to his readings, and met many other bisexuals that were there. For the first time, I wanted to be bisexual. I’d come out a long time before, but suddenly I was envious. It was like a whole world is out there that I wanted to be a part of.
Unfortunately, I have no attraction to women, although my closest relationships (with the exception of my partner) are with women.

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Even though I usually avoid the “Ask The…” threads like the plague, I read each post here and found it to be a good read.

I really don’t have anything to add in the way of a question - but I will offer advice from my perspective.

This is a small list I’ve compiled over the years. It’s bi no means law - just one individual’s observations that he’s made a mental note of in his years as a bisexual.

You’re an individual. Always demand to be treated as one and always try and judge everyone you meet in your life the in the same manner.

Avoid falling into the trap of “group-think” mentality. There are many people out there who are not individuals - they need the comfort that comes with being part of a larger group. It is within these groups you’ll find certain generalizations are more the rule than the exception:

There are quite a few self-identified bisexuals who (Kinsey scale or not) have mislabeled themselves:
Some, you’ll find are homosexuals that just can’t come to grips with their sexuality.
Others, you’ll find are heterosexuals that have relationships with members of the same sex because of an attraction to a physical attribute that they themselves lack.

Don’t become a bisexual misanthrope lamenting the fact you’re a round peg in a square holed world. There are way too many bis out there that bemoan the fact they don’t feel entirely comfortable in the gay or straight community. There’s no one out there that wants to crucify you. Consider you bisexuality a gift…something that enables you to be fluid and provides you the ability to have a deep, meaningful relationship with a person from either gender.

Never try and hide your sexuality. That doesn’t mean you have to tell the checkout girl at the supermarket you’re buying bananas and cantaloupes because you’re bi (unless, of course, she’s cute). Nor does it mean you have to have a yin/yang symbol tattooed on your left arm and a red/purple/blue flag tattooed on the right. It just means you have to be up front and honest about your sexuality with everyone you date. You’ll get more respect for being honest with people and won’t get caught up in the “I can change” game.

Beware the internet. There are tons of frauds, phonies, liars and Dahmers out there. Meeting dateable, well adjusted people is much easier & a whole lot safer in a face to face / real world setting than it will ever be over a computer. That doesn’t mean everyone you meet at a club (or whatever) is going to have your best intentions in mind - they won’t. Be cautious and keep your guard up.

Just because someone is bisexual doesn’t necessarily mean they are polyamorous. There are some bis that have the ability to be in a loving & committed relationship.

I could babble on for another 1/2 hour, but I gotta run…(hot date).

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Thanks for the advice/anedotes, Kobaltblu and JohnBckWLD.

Good luck on your date.