What would you like to know? I’m definitely not shy or squeamish - ask me anything.
Every pregnancy is different, of course. I can’t tell you about all of them, or even most of them, but I can tell you about this one. My intent is to post a new thread each month, to give a more accurate sense of things as they happen, rather than trying to remember four months from now how bad my morning sickness was or how my boobs felt. And of course, I’m really hoping that one of those threads doesn’t turn out to be “Ask the Chick Who Just Had a Miscarriage”, or “Ask Me About My Anencephalic Fetus”, but those are the risks.
Also, I know there are a lot of Dopers here who are or once were pregnant and are happy to talk about it. Anyone who wants to share their experiences is more than welcome to - again, every pregnancy is different.
Here are a few questions to get the ball rolling:
- How far along are you, really?
Well, it depends on how you count it. As I understand it, OBs typically count from the date of the start of your last period, assuming that you’re ovulating about 2 weeks after that. So if a woman misses her period, she’s considered weeks 4 “pregnant”, even though she actually conceived just 2 weeks ago. By that measure I’d be almost 9 weeks.
However, as far as I can tell, I ovulated really late - roughly when my next period was supposed to start (more about that below). So if we go by that date, then I’m only 5 weeks.
But since pregnancies typically include an “extra” two weeks, my doctor is calling it 6 1/2 to 7 weeks. I have an appointment next week and we’ll get a better idea and a due date estimate then.
- Long-awaited dream come true or happy accident?
It’s a planned pregnancy, but also rather unexpected. We tried for five months, using fertility monitors and such, and discovered that I seemed to be ovulating up to a week late. In December, we talked to a fertility doctor who agreed that I probably wouldn’t get pregnant on my own, and that we should come back in the new year when our new insurance started. When I didn’t ovulate until my period was due, I figured it was certainly not going to happen that month, anyway. Go figure.
- What does it feel like?
Nothing in particular, right now. I get occasional abdominal cramps (like extremely light menstrual cramps). I have nausea that comes and goes (and is not limited to the morning), but I haven’t vomited at all, and it hasn’t put me off food. I had a wicked bout of constipation a few days ago. The most noticeable thing is the pain in my breasts. I’d heard they can feel sore and swollen; what I did not know is that I’d be just sitting here at work and feel stabs of pain. Fun. And they’re not really sore or swollen, per se. That brings to mind something surface-y, like a burn or a beesting. They’re most definitely tender, and seem bigger or fuller some days, but it’s a more internal feeling. They feel hard inside from time to time, almost like I’d imagine implants feel. And it really varies from day to day. Except for the nipples. Ow, the nipples. *Those *are constantly, incredibly sore and sensitive. Don’t even look at them the wrong way, seriously.
So, anything else? “What’s ovulation?” “Are you offended by the term ‘knocked up’?” “Can I touch your stomach?” “How is babby formed?” Ask away.