I’m very outspoken, and quite adventurous. My husband never has to guess if he’s doing something right or wrong with me, cuz I’ll just tell him.
He knew it for what it was, and was totally cool with it.
Well, again, looking at it from a viewpoint of being an actress, I personally don’t see a problem with it. IMHO, God made us sexual creatures. I don’t have a moral dilemma with it. Now that’s not to say that every Baha’i you asked would agree; this particular situation is not addressed in our Holy Book.
Yeah, he knows the pics were a model; I’ve never sent him real pics of myself, but he does a lot of high security kind of work, and knows lots of folks. My guess is that if he really wanted to find out what I look like, he would. He’s never talked about a real meeting in person (for now) because he knows I’m totally devoted to my husband and would never cheat on him (not only does he know I’m married, but recognizes my husband’s voice and both of my older daughter’s voices on the phone, and is very cordial to them). He has said, however, that if anything ever happens to my husband, he hopes I would consider him an option. Hey, the dude has a 9,000 sq. ft. house in Tampa and a yacht; a girl could do worse . He’s not bad looking, either.
MY husband is cool with the relationship because, for one thing, it pays well; for another thing, he trusts me 100%.
Yeah, it’s one of the reasons I wasn’t so good at first. That’s why I started reading porno mags. In fact, I’d make notes of really good stuff sometimes.
Absolutely!
Very few of the guys who called lasted the entire call; most of the time when the guy took the whole block of time, it was because it was someone I’d developed a rapport with, and we’d chat. Some of them were really extreme, though, like, under two minutes.
Well, generally I’d ask them their name, where they were from, etc. and then put the ball in their court by saying “Do you have any questions for me?” If their first question was “how big are your tits?” I knew they wanted to get right down to business. If it was something like “So, are you a student?” I knew they wanted to chat first.
Thanks for a very interesting thread. I’ve never understood the phone-sex thing (I had one girlfriend who used to want to do it, so I played along while doing other things; I can’t understand wanting to pay for it), but y’know, whatever turns people’s cranks, it’s their business.
You say you got an indication of what the guy (or whoever) wanted to do from your dispatch operator when the call was transferred. Any miscommunications? Y’know, where you say, “Okay, I’m peeing on you now,” and the guy says, “Wait, what? I don’t want that!” and you say, “Oh, um, okay, never mind. Let me tell you about my tits again,” or whatever.
Were you actually listening to them finish? Would they stay on the line while they climaxed? Or was it a matter of getting them all worked up and then they’d say, “Okay thanks bye” so they could orgasm alone? I know there’s probably a range; which was more common?
I don’t expect you to have an answer for this, but I wonder if the recent Supreme Court decisions about “virtual” child porn, where no actual child is involved, being protected by free speech might have caused this to change.
Well, I can’t really recall anything like that. I was also never really that blunt about it; for instance, if the operator told me he was into water sports, I probably would have talked to him for a few minutes and then said something like “Boy, I’ve been drinking coffee all evening! I really have to pee” and gauge his reaction.
Not really a range. They pretty much stayed on the phone until they reached climax; some of them were very vocal about it, some would just hang up when they were finished, some were kind of like, “Okay, I’m done. Bye!”
You’re right, I can’t answer this. I will say that even if this rule changed, the company would probably still give the girls a choice whether to participate, like they did with rape fantasies.
Did your employer ever monitor your calls? I would assume they would have some random monitoring so you never knew when you would be monitored? Or maybe they jsut didn’t care that much?
Regular shift; 9PM to 5AM, five days a week; I wasn’t on calls the whole eight hours, but I was available the whole eight hours ('cept for breaks) and got paid for the whole eight hours.
The office was located just north of Baltimore.
Calls were randomly monitored, for training (we did training calls with a trainer afterwards, where the trainer would give us advice on how to improve our performance) and to make sure we weren’t breaking rules. And right, you never knew you were monitored until after the fact.
This is incredibly interesting. I’d met one person, very briefly, who did this in her spare time and I couldn’t have ever imagined asking these type of things. So, thank you for dispelling some of my ignorance.
My question is (and please forgive me if this sounds silly or presumptious)…
But did any of it ever feel degrading or was the idea of ‘acting’ overriding any distasteful thoughts? I’m assuming, along with the rape fantasies, it would be up to your discrestion on what kinds of conversations to follow through. Along that thinking, was there ever desires to discuss necrophilia from your clients? Or other activities that would be illegal? Like climaxing during a murder or something.
And no, I promise my daydreams are a LOT more vanilla. With a bit of praline thrown in, of course. However, attitudes like the above would scare the crap out of me and make me hesitate to even try it, let alone continue if I encountered such. The flip side is though, I suppose if they were just talking about it, it perhaps could prevent the need for any action. I’d hope. What do you think?
Care to give us a breakdown of the topics of the 25% of calls that weren’t straight S&F calls? Past those basics, what stuff did you encounter the most?
You said that your supervisors occasionally monitored your calls. Were the calls ever taped, perhaps to protect yourselves against false accusations that you had suggested or promoted something illegal?
Did the men generally understand that they were paying a stranger to play a role, or did they really think that they were connecting with the 19-year-old Barbi doll that they had asked the operator for?
How elaborate were the fantasy conversations? Was it mostly “oh, that feels good baby,” or did you ever get someone who said something like, “Look, pretend I’m the Prince and you’re Guinevere and you’re locked in a tiny cell at the top of a stone tower and you’ve promised to give yourself to any man who can rescue you and I’m swinging my trusty two-handed broadsword through thorny hedges as the sheriff’s wolfhounds nip at my heels…” .etc. ?
Also, would you like to assess the average male caller’s knowledge and misconceptions about what women enjoy?
ok. let us get paranoid for a moment. we have a guy from an uncertain background who spends a hundred dollars per hour on sex calls doing some sort of high security kind of work who knows lots of folks in interesting places… your husband have no reason not to trust you, but the guy on the other hand…
Thanks, norinew!
Did you ever have days when you just dreaded working? You know, like the rest of us do? Except in your case, it’d be worse because you still have to seem enthusiastic.
I’m having one of those days right now, so I plan to sit around today and make a lot of wet pussy noises.
Wow. For some reason, I didn’t get notification about any of these replies until just now; I haven’t been ignoring you (but now that you know I used to lie for money, can you ever trust me again. . . ). I’ll try to answer some of these while I have a bit of time.
Well, we didn’t have a lot of discretion, no. We didn’t do “minors” and we didn’t have to do rape; just about everything else, we had to do. Yeah, there could be factors (like if one of our guys threatened to find us and hurt us, or something). Some of it was distasteful, yeah; I just had to keep telling myself “It’s just an act; it’s just an act.” Fortunately, I never talked to a necrophilac. Ewww.
Well, it’s more than “if they’re talking about it to me, at least they’re not really doing it”. See, I have some very heavy S&M fantasies (hey, if I’m gonna bare my soul, I may as well go for it, no?), but what I want in reality is a lot more lightweight. Sexual fantasies are that way a lot. I pretty much assumed my callers were the same way. They wanted to talk about a lot of stuff they didn’t necessarily want to do.
(Boy, next time you hug me at a DopeFest, am I gonna feel weird or what?) By far the most popular after straight S&F was the “two girls” fantasy. Guys wanted to hear about me having sex with other girls. My RL experience in this is very limited, but I did read a lot, and I am a pretty good actress and fairly imaginative. Next in line would have to be guys who wanted me to tell them a new way to jack off. Tres frustrating! I mean, how many ways are there? Then there were the animal lovers, the subs who wanted to be dominated, and, occasionally, the dom who wanted me to sub.
Well, to the best of my knowledge, the closest to that is the guy who is still around; not a name you would probably recognize, but he did sing with a moderately popular pop band in the '60s, and has been working on some new electronic security equipment that he’s been on a couple of the home shopping cahnnels hawking. That’s how I’ve seen him on TV.
To the best of my knowledge, the only calls that were taped were “training calls”; every month, the office featured a new training call that the girls could call and listen to and get tips from. A number of my calls were turned into training calls, because I was pretty good. But it wouldn’t really surprise me if more calls were recorded.
Well, you know, it’s fantasy; I think most of them were bright enough to understand that. I mean, when you watch Forrest Gump, you know Tom Hanks doesn’t have an IQ of 70, but you wanna believe in the fantasy, and he’s good at it, so you do believe. Does that make sense?
I’d say that aside from a very rough idea, about 85% of them wanted me to construct a fantasy. In fact, a few of them wanted to give me no idea of what they were wanting, and I’d try a few things and they’d be like “No, this isn’t doing it” but their attitude was “You’re getting paid to serve me, so I shouldn’t have to tell you”. I handled them by telling them (playfully, so as not to piss them off) that they must have confused my number with the psychic hotline. That usually got through to them. Another 10% got fairly specific from the start, or would lead me as we played. Another 5% would lay it out pretty much as you described above, down to the last detail; I had to take lots of notes on those!
Well, I dunno about misconceptions. Most of them wanted me to get off on whatever they wanted to do (and I did, I did! ), but I’m not sure that IRL, these guys thought that a real woman would get off on this stuff. They hired me to play a roll, and I played it. They may well have been more sensitive, responsive, whatever, with their life partners. I did have a few guys who would as me what I like, and then try to incorporate that, because it was important to them that I enjoy myself.
Well, hubby’s got pretty good instincts about folks, and has had fairly lengthy techie conversations with this guy. Plus there’s the fact that he and I have known each other (on the phone) for more than ten years. And he’s had my home addy for the past seven years. So we’re all guessing that if nothing horrible has happened by now, it won’t. No, hubby and I both trust the guy, too.
Oh, God, yes! (now just imagine me breathing heavy and screaming that ). When I hadn’t had enough sleep, when I was PMSing, whatever. Sometimes I’d think “If I have to fake one more orgasm I’m gonna snap!” But I got through it.
How many calls did you typically get over a shift?
What was the interview call like? What was the “training” like? Were you given a list of alternates for “cock,” “jizz,” pussy," etc. for a little variety?
Over an eight-hour shift, probably an average of twelve.
On the interview call, they put us through to a real live customer and listened to what we did and got a feel for whether we were cut out for the work or not. I dunno if the customer got any special consideration.
Before our audition call, we “eavesdropped” on a couple of other calls, and listened to some training tapes; coming up with synonyms was left strictly up to us. But you got a feel (heh) with your regulars, what terms they like (some prefer pussy, some cunt; some prefer dick, some cock). The essence of sales (and like all acting, this was a sales job), it was “give the customer what they want”.
Well, as I think I’ve mentioned previously (what, you didn’t read every single word I’ve typed? On your knees, worm! sorry, flashback, y’know), there were a few guys at the service, but I don’t think there’s a big demand for that side of the coin. There may or may not have been phone sex services whose specialty this was; if so, I’m not aware of it.
I knew there was more than one reason why we get along so well!
I have never done it, but actually toyed around with the idea for a while. A few years ago my roommate and I were considering putting in a second phone line for it but for some reason we didn’t. Now I actually think I would have enjoyed it.
(does that sound odd?)
Heck once when I held a short job doing phone questionaires I had a guy ask me to marry him on my voice alone!
When I was working as a receptionist I had a guy who normally wouldn’t do pick-ups come in and pick up the repaired phone just to see what I looked like. He usually didn’t answer the phone and he and the other guy were wondering if I looked anything as hot as what my voice sounded.
From then on it would be an arguement over who got to answer my phone calls, phone something in, or come and pick it up as opposed to me sending it out via mail.
A quick question though, do you think the phone business is still making money since internet porn is at peoples finger tips more now then it was when you were in the business?
And do you keep in touch with any of the people you used to work with?
Oh, and did you ever get to discuss phone conversations with co-workers? Like “OMG you wouldn’t believe they guy I just talked to?” Or was it pretty much a solitary job? I know you said you had an award/recognition ceremony once, but I’m talking about getting along with them like they were co-workers and not just “yeah, we work at the same company”
. He’s not bad looking, either.
However, attitudes like the above would scare the crap out of me and make me hesitate to even try it, let alone continue if I encountered such. The flip side is though, I suppose if they were just talking about it, it perhaps could prevent the need for any action. I’d hope. What do you think?