I know a good number of Dopers have ADHD besides myself, and I invite them to add to this thread freely.
I was diagnosed with Adult Attention Deficit Disorder in 2005, when I was 46 years old.
The short and snappy version of the symptoms I’d dealt with my whole life and how it led to the diagnosis:
I was a very intelligent child and I made excellent grades in grammar school. Entering middle school pulled the rug out from under me completely and I never recovered. The only class I attended with any regularity was English, and I consistently received A’s. In virtually every other subject I failed or barely scraped by with a D. When I was IQ tested in 8th grade it was something like 140, so they knew the problem wasn’t stupidity.
In eleventh grade California introduced the Proficiency Exam, which is an alternative to the GED and tests your ability to function in the real world: can you write a check, read a recipe, etc. I took that and left school.
When I was 20 I went to junior college and took only classes I was interested in: psychology, philosophy, many broadcasting courses. I attended for 3 years and made the Dean’s list with a 4.0 every year.
Between the ages of 18 and 36 I had approximately 30 jobs. A few were temporary to start with, a few were things I had created on my own, the rest I was fired from after being a star in the beginning. I did many different kinds of work, ranging from answering service and driving a cab to editing a porn mag, working as a bookkeeper and office manager, sales of many kinds… lots of things. I always rocked it out the gate but eventually got to a point where I wanted to kill myself rather than show up one more time.
In partnership with my boyfriend we created a special pornsite at the dawn of the internet. We both struggled enormously with doing much beyond the minimum required to keep things going, but it wasn’t that big an issue because we had a good thing.
Between the ages of 30 and 45 I had about 5 different therapists. My issues were never about interpersonal relationships, love, family… maybe some here and there, but really the biggest issue was ME: I was aware that I could not seem to function like a normal human being. The fact of my intelligence was meaningless because I seemed incapable of making a goal or a plan. following through with anything… as I put it to my first therapist: I can’t even brush my teeth on anything like a schedule.
What therapy made clear to me was the horrible conundrum of my siituation: so many steps and processes therapeutically useful when one is trying to deal with one’s issues about love or relationship or pretty much anything except ADD were useless for ADD because they call upon precisely the skills I so desperately needed and lacked: write in a journal, make a plan to do X differently ona regular basiss, remember to do Y when Z occurs… well, hello, if I was good at that I wouldn’t be here freaking out over my inability to fucking control myself and remember to do things a certain way and follow through with things…
I was a very heavy smoker from age 16. I was also a voracious reader of fiction, reading 2-5-8 novels a month. I quit smoking in 2000. The day after my last cigarette I found I couldn’t focus on reading a book. From that day forward I never read a novel again (except “the Road”). When I told my then-therapist, she suggested that I might have ADD. I laughed it off, because I really had no idea what ADD REALLY was then, and I knew for sure I wasn’t hyper. (The reason quitting smoking showed my ADD in that way was because I had been using nicotine to self-medicate without realizing it. It is a stimulant, and roughly 10% of people with ADD have a good response to nicotine in terms of controlling symptoms. )
It took 5 more years for me to get a diagnosis and medication. That was 2005. I’m 54 now, and while meds help, they don’t help as much as they did, and the circumstances of my life are pretty much the absolute worst possible for someone with ADD: I live alone and I have no immediate consequences to failing to do what I need to. This is a disaster, but I’ll leave that for now.
Also, I am a freak for information, so I have educated myself about ADHD over the years, and I will say this: with a few minor exceptions, I can pretty much guarantee that the average person’s understanding of what ADD looks like is almost completely wrong. Especially when the hyperactivity is not a part of it, as it is not with me. ADD really boils down to impairment of the “executive functions” of the brain. The grown up:
The only areas in which I do not manifest severely impaired functioning is in my language and communication skills, and while I am extremely emotional and ridiculously impulsive, it does not come out as anger, which is the more frequently seen manifestation of that.
So ask away if you care to…right now I’m going to see my shrink for my meds…