I’ve used a wheelchair for a couple of years. When I first wound up in it, I would tell practically everyone what happened (car accident) when I met them or soon after, at least I remember it that way. Now I don’t tell the story all that often. For example, at the place where I have worked (part time) for a year and a half no one knows the background, at least I don’t think so. I’ve never had a problem with telling people what happened, and think it’s kind of funny when people don’t know how to approach the question ("If you don’t want to tell me, it’s OK, but how …).
Strangely enough, when I found myself in the same situation with a teacher who had a prosthetic limb, I never did ask him what happened. Not necessarily that I wasn’t curious, just that I didn’t know how to bring it up.
So I’m wondering, are most people curious about the background of a disability and they don’t know how to ask? Or are people not interested, and when I was first hurt, I was pushing information on them that they didn’t care about? I had my personal curiousity about my teacher, but I didn’t know if there was some kind of thing where my situation was the root of the curiousity or if everyone has it and just doesn’t know how to bring it up? If you see someone with a disability do you want to know what happened? Is there some sort of ranking on injuries/disabilities that are “OK” to ask about?