Just curious… what exactly is the acceptable amount of time one must be exposed to something to form an opinion, good or bad, on foreign culture, or anything else for that matter?
Does this mean that anytime someone visits another country and they find the culture repulsive to them personally, does this mean that they are socially incompetent and/or a faulty individual because they do not join the Peace Corp to change it, therapy to change themselves?
Someone spent time in a foreign country and has a very strong dislike for the culture, and maybe even a hatred. Why does this make him a racist or evil person? I’ve spent time in countries that I would kill to go back to. I’ve also spent time in places that I literally could not be paid to visit again, finding those places absolutely horrid. Yes, it is because of a social difference. That doesn’t mean that I have to make special effort to try to find the good in those places. Hey, I hate creamed peas and could starve to death in a room full of them. How many times I’ve tried them is irrelevant. I don’t like them and never will eat them again.
Now wait just a damn minute! This was supposed to be a pity party for ME, and look what happened!:mad:
OK, screw it…mods, if you would be so kind as to close this thread, we can all move over to Eusabian’s thread and continue the discussion (whatever the hell it is now) there, thus avoiding clutter and confusion. Thanks!
I’ll give you some pity. Really. Not because of your OP.
But because it was your first pit rant and it backfired.
Same thing happeded to me. Started off funny, and even a little flirting, then got mean. The shock has kept me mostly out of the pit for some time.
Good Point Astro… My apologies. I understand your problem. In my last job I saw this happen a lot, and it happened to me several times too. That’s why I now refer to it as “my last job”. Politics is something that can drive away many talented people who really don’t care for playing the game, and just want to do their job better than anyone else. It was always my impression that the “higher ups” really don’t want it to be known who the real people are behind the scenes, as it’s usually the best people working for them that can topple the image that they think their peers have of them. God forbid a high level director be found to be inept. Basically, I attribute it to jealousy. You were able to do what they wish they could do themselves, and to add insult, you did it extremely well and fast. Sometimes it sucks to be on top of your game, but dignity is sometimes better than open appreciation.
As a sidenote, perhaps when you decide to leave you can publish an open letter where you think the most people will see it, explaining how you were not given the credit due to you. Some feel that this approach is “chickenshit”, but you will have made your contributions known to at least some people, and sometimes, it leads to a lot of questions posed to those people still around. (In one case I know of, it got a director relieved of position).
I’d recommend against the “burning bridges” letter. I’ve done that and two things immediately occurred to me too late.
One, the minute I left the building, I was a free man and didn’t give a shit about what anyone there cared about anything. It had been a weight being lifted not to care any more.
Two, I realized I’d have to write them out of my work history somehow, and that would prove trickier than if I could just have left with my teeth gritted but no last words.
Politics is something that can drive away many talented people who really don’t care for playing the game, and just want to do their job better than anyone else. It was always my impression that the “higher ups” really don’t want it to be known who the real people are behind the scenes, as it’s usually the best people working for them that can topple the image that they think their peers have of them. God forbid a high level director be found to be inept. Basically, I attribute it to jealousy. You were able to do what they wish they could do themselves, and to add insult, you did it extremely well and fast. Sometimes it sucks to be on top of your game, but dignity is sometimes better than open appreciation.