As someone already suggested, talk to your deacon. He will have a whole list of readings normally read on weddings. Actually, the book he will be reading from has a section with all those readings.
I am still not sure of what’s your criteria for choosing potential readings but most on that list are fairly innocuous. Heavy on the love and light on the God.
I kinda gather that what you want to avoid are the mentions to fire and brimstone and gnashing of teeth. If that’s the case, then sweat not. The whole list is mostly free of that.
Choosing a reading from that list is certain to keep the attendants in the desired unquestioning lull. Going too creative on the readings might wake someone up and they might start making questions at the reception.
In retrospect maybe I should have left atheist bit off. I guess I was trying to state that I want readings light on dogma, hellfire and brimstone, etc. The book the deacon gave us didn’t have much that appealed to me so I figured the dopers would have some good recommendations.
Of course not. Why would I announce that? That would never come up and if I did I’d just state I was baptized and confirmed which I was.
Exactly. I get along famously with her family. We have been together for 7 years and I haven’t had a single argument with any of her family members. Why risk changing how they think of me?
Well, I am in the deep south. Can’t say I’ve heard that verse but I have some rather bloody passages read in weddings here.
EDIT: I replied as I read and thread and didn’t see the warning from the mods.
Oh. Disregard my post then. Although I stand by the point that choosing from it helps to keep the whole thing low profile although I respect the fact that you would rather have something that meant something to you.
That part is not appropriate. The deacon should know. As I said before, you don’t need to be a Catholic to have either a Catholic wedding (so long as it’s not something like your third wedding after two annulments) or a sacramental Marriage. But things like the pre-marriage counseling will take a different tack. You’re buying a product under false premises, therefore the product being given to you is not the one that covers your needs best. It’s not for “religious” reasons but for the same reason that it’s not appropriate to buy a size 4 dress for yourself when you’re a 12, it just won’t serve you well.
Let’s say I tell the deacon that while baptized and confirmed in the church I no longer believe in Catholic dogma. What happens at this point?
my fiancee will be furious with me. I lobbied for a non-Catholic ceremony but she said it would be much less tension for her in a church. We’re talking dozens of close relatives that pray the rosary every night. I can understand her point of view.
shit will get very awkward with the deacon. He may still marry us but then he may not. Nobody wins in that situation.
her parents would take offense. they offered to get her the big church all little catholic girls dream of getting married in. I can’t imagine telling them we aren’t down with transubstantiation so we’re declining their very generous gift.
FWIW the church makes a nice profit margin on the 2 hours we have their facility. Trust me, they don’t want their swanky building not in use at noon on Saturday.
So, now that the OP has chosen to post several times going beyond what czarcasm apparently interpreted as the extremely limited scope of his initial post, is the previous mod-warning still in effect?
Or will the OP be cited for numerous “infractions”?
Is this an official mod action saying that no further discussion will be permitted - by anyone including the OPer? Or is the OPer allowed to continue on this path however he wishes, but we are not permitted to respond?
Or is this simply your personal opinion of his most recent posts?
I’m sorry if this seems overly pedantic and/or defensive, but you are the one who came in here swinging the big guns. I just want to know what I need to do to stay out of the line of fire.
Brimstone and hellfire? Dude, what Catholic church were you raised in?
Personally, if you’re serious about this, you should pick up a Bible and read it. Something should grab you as being appropriate. And, honestly, it’s the least you can do given it’s one of the few things in the entire ceremony that you will have control over.
A link provided previously branched off to this link on choosing readings. This makes it sound like you’re limited on what you can pick; I missed in this long thread if they told you that you had more latitude or not, but this rings a bell with what I was told when I got married (as a non-Catholic Christian marrying a Catholic, in a Catholic church). I was given a booklet that, if memory serves, matched with this.
Responsorial psalm: You’re stuck here. Maybe the Psalms 145 reading about God’s compassion.
Second reading: Obvious, oft-used choice, good ol’ 1 Corinthians 12, aka “Love is patient, love is kind.”
Gospel reading: The Beatitudes might be your best bet here, even though it’s pretty common. There’s God content but it’s about blessings brought to the meek and downtrodden.
