Enough time has obviously passed since the advent of cadolphin’s bereavement to allow me to question the compassion of those who railed and complained about the misgivings I raised in the original thread. I say ‘obviously’ because it appears that the OP’er has started yet another thread in MPSIMS to surreptiously continue the thread that TVeblen locked in the Pit.
Cadolphin, you leave me speechless. I have no doubts that you were upset when your cat died, but anthropomorphising your dead moggie in the way you did was fucking offensive to those who have lost children. It was a veritable ‘kick in the guts’ and a blatant trivialising of the experiences of the poor buggers who have had the REAL LIVE misfortune to have a child die.
I don’t give a shit that you considered your cat a ‘person’. I don’t give a flying fuck that you loved your moggie and that it played a big part in your life. We have all grieved the loss of pets: when Jack died, I was completely heartbroken for months. But Jack was a dog, and although I loved him with all my heart, there is no damn equivalence with losing a child.
You seem to have the grieving high-ground here…“Oh, shame on you kambuckta for daring to have a go at someone when they are feeling down”.
But I suggest you are guilty of ‘emotocentrism’, that because you are feeling lousy that it gives you carte blanche to shit over anyone else you want. Especially those who have lost a child.
By all means post and grieve the loss of beloved pets. But watch your fucking language, and when called on it, don’t play the pathetic victim, OK?
Second, I think you need to shut the fuck up. Yes, her language was confusing and odd, but her story explains it, does it not? Did you bother to read her story? She HAD a child die, and is filling that void with her pets (I’m playing junior psych here). Perhaps it’s not healthy, especially given a cat’s short lifespan, but it is understandable. Give it a rest.
For what it’s worth, I’m rescinding my participation on the board over this issue.
If you are all so insensitive as to not appreciate that calling cats your ‘daughter’ and that ‘losing 3 children in 3 years’ might be an affront to those who HAVE lost children, then fuck you.
For what it’s worth I don’t think this thread was necessary. But I also have a bit of a problem with the MPSIMS thread.
Starting a thread then saying “and look what jerks they were in the other thread” is a little passive-aggressive. She took a shot at people and if they had responded in that thread they’d look like unsympathetic jerks. The only possible response was to reassure cadolphin that people were acting like jerks or ignore the comment.
So, while I don’t think this thread was necessary I do sort of understand why it was started.
Personally, I found your wading in and acting like an insensitive prick to be orders of magnitude more offensive than anything cadolphin said, maybe that’s just me.