I am the proud father of a seven month-old baby boy. For purposes of this thread, I will call him Charlie. That happens to be his name, too.
Anyhoo, Charlie is a lovely little boy. Handsome. Healthy. Really, what more could a parent ask for? I’ll tell you what a parent could ask for: A baby that doesn’t get up twice every night!
Charlie had a brief spell when he was about four months old during which he slept through the night. We thought we had crossed into the promised land. But, oh no. It was a mirage. Before and since, he has consistently gotten up at least once. Sometimes twice. Sometimes thrice. He’s usually hungry and will drink a full bottle. (At least, a full bottle for him. He takes small meals.) All the sleep advice books say, if your baby’s hungry in the middle of the night, feed him! Don’t experiment with sleep strategies on a hungry baby.
In addition to general sleep deprivation issues and the marital tensions created by negotiating night-time duties in a daze that isn’t conducive to empathic communication, I am additionally frustrated by:
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[li]The fact that every book and expert says babies don’t have a biological need for nighttime feedings at this age.[/li][li]The fact that every friend of ours (and there are several) with babies this age have babies that sleep through the night.[/li][li]The fact that people ask us how he sleeps, we tell them, and then they say “Wow, he’s a little old to be getting up that much!”[/li][/ul]
Implied by all those books and experts and well-meaning friends is the following hypothesis: “You must be doing something wrong.” Criminy! If we are doing something wrong, I wish someone would tell us what it is so we can stop!
Plus, he still can’t sit up on his own for more than 10 seconds. Or crawl, at all. His little buddies at daycare are starting to run circles around him. I am a born worrier, and these things fit right into the in-box in my brain labeled “ANXIETY OVER CHILD’S DEVELOPMENT,” an in-box that had remained empty until seven months ago.
Why didn’t anyone tell me having a baby was hard? Oh, wait, they did. Damn me for not listening.