The thread about parents being involved in their children’s bathroom habits reminded me of something. Myself and my brother took an embarassingly long time to get toilet trained. I wish I could give a timeline, but it felt like longer than normal. (when I say ‘longer than normal’ I mean we knew how to use the toilet, but still had accidents alarmingly frequently in spite of being in normal control of our bodily functions).
When talking to friends/SOs about gross, taboo things about ourselves (menstruation, inappropriate places to masturbate, disturbing dreams, etc) it always seemed like everybody else’s bladders were this watertight dam the second they got toilet trained. I learned how to use the toilet, then I would have these ‘phases’ where I’d start wetting the bed. In 4th grade, I had another horribly embarassing ‘phase’. I had a teacher who was really strict about going to the bathroom- she wasn’t sympathetic if you had to go 5 minutes after lunch. I probably wet my pants 20 times in that class, it was horrible. :smack:
I was fortunate at the time to have a really, really sympathetic friend which helped out a lot. Later, learning more about my family, I found out my dad was having an affair around that time, and I wondered if some of the bedwetting/loss of urinary control had anything to do with it.
As horribly embarassing as this is to admit, I do still wet the bed extremely rarely (like once every 3-4 years) with no idea why; one time it was while I was sleeping with my ex (plenty embarassing). Maybe I’m having a dream my father is cheating on my mom or something