I just want to take this opportunity to tell all of you:
F*CK YOU ALL OFF
and
YOU TOOK IT TOO FARA
Gah damn that was teh funny.
This really is Something Awful. How stupid do you have to be to post info like that kid did?
That thread is proof that the internet Can be used for successful castration surgery*.
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*Results to be published in this May’s ‘New England Journal of Medicine’
He posted their names, then mentioned the name of the university at which his girlfriend worked in chat (the log was posted somewhere on the second page IIRC). “Chloe” is a somewhat uncommon name, and universities have a bad habit of leaving their staff’s contact information in insecure places, so the rest was easy.
What a great thread!
That guy got EXACTLY what he diserved!
This is why you don’t post personal information EVER on the Awful forums. This sort of thing happens quite often. But in this situation, I agree what happend was fair.
Is your name the same on the SA forums, MD?
Nah, although “Muad’Dib” was available, I used an older screenname, “Kleebner”.
He didn’t post her info publicly. It was gotten from a, presumedly, private conversation he was having with a forum member on advice for his situation. Said forum member then looked up the GFs contact info from the info which was given out to him in private and then took it public. The kids mistake was in trusting private conversation to remain private when he was talking to a total stranger.
Dumbass yes, but hardly deserving of what they did to him. He had a moment of temptation for his GFs sister and posted about it. Now his relationship is probably in tatters. Either that or it was actully Chloe trolling the SA boards trying to get them to find her email address and staging the whole thing. I give both equal probability of being true.
Sometimes I really hate the internet.
Enjoy,
Steven
Eh? I musta got manure for my brains, cuz I’m not seeing it. I see the “SIGN UP NOW!” box, and below it a login screen, and no apparent link to go to the thread. Even tried some different browsers, because sometimes Opera acts funny, but all look the same. Is this in one of the “premium” forums?
I know I’ve read SA without an account before.
A moment? Wasn’t he asking how to “swap” them? I think that’s more then a moment.
I can’t read it either. 
I can’t see the page anymore(apparently you get a certain number of free views and then it locks you out with just the signup page, or that’s what it is doing to me) but from what I remember of his OP he wasn’t asking that, or not seriously if he was. He was tempted and conflicted, but he hadn’t definitely decided he wanted to do it. Left alone he probably would have gotten over it. The people in the forums seemed to latch onto that course of action far more than his OP seemed to indicate he did. All of this is IMHO and IIRC of course. At this point is seems he had his relationship wrecked for what is essentially a thought crime. Not being a big fan of punishing someone for thinking something, I’m not a big fan of what other people did to him. It seems the people who solicited info from him under cover of private conversation and the guise of trying to give him good faith advice were guilty of far worse betrayals than he was.
Still give it 50/50 odds that the whole thing is a troll perpetuated on the SA boards, and by extension ourselves.
Enjoy,
Steven
No, he was straight up asking how to pull off a swap.
I pistol wipe your dog.
Ok. He was a jerk then. Still don’t think much of the posters who actively tried to hurt him, especially using the methods they used.
Enjoy,
Steven
Not only that, he was also bitching about having the fat twin with the bad personality.
The girlfriend had a right to know. I think the posters thought this too. I don’t think they were trying to hurt him, just show his girlfriend what an ass she was dateing.
Did anybody manage to read some of the linked threads? Particularly hilarious was the one where some idiot asked if it was normal to sniff his sister’s panties :smack: .
Sure enough, some goon found his personal info on another message board and CALLED HIS PARENTS. Then, in his “Fuck You All Off” thread (OK, that’s not really the title) he claims he’s being forced into therapy.
Serves him right for seeking advice on SA. I mean, couldn’t he have taken a hint from the forum name?
Did anybody manage to read some of the linked threads? Particularly hilarious was the one where some idiot asked if it was normal to sniff his sister’s panties .
Sure enough, some goon found his personal info on another message board and CALLED HIS PARENTS. Then, in his “Fuck You All Off” thread (OK, that’s not really the title) he claims he’s being forced into therapy.
Serves him right for seeking advice on SA. I mean, couldn’t he have taken a hint from the forum name?
Why? Odds are virtually every human interpersonal relationship has something that one party has said to a third party which is about or might be of concern to their SO. This was not unique to this individual. I’d guess more relationships would end up in tears if it wasn’t possible to keep some secrets. The only thing this person did differently from virtually anyone else was he went to a message board with his secret instead of a trusted friend. As of yet the hidden desire had not caused damage to anyone and was not likely to. As soon as he tried a “swap” odds are he’d end up dumped and shitlisted. It is a virtual certainty that this particular desire would never ever bear fruit and if he couldn’t let it go then I trust the girls(we’re talking college-age here) to be able to deal with the situation.
One poster responded in a way I think was completely appropriate. They said something like “Do both you and the girl(s) a favor. Go away and come back when you’ve grown up and can handle a mature relationship.” That is sound advice and well within the realm of what could be reasonably given based on the scant info the posters on the board have about the poster, but those who took it on themselves to actively work towards damaging the relationship were asses.
We get these kind of dilemmas here on the SDMB too. People asking if they should tell a friend’s wife that the friend is cheating on her, that sort of thing. I am unaware of any instances where someone here took that information and interfered with someone elses real lives and I would hope it would be treated with approbation if it did occur. Intervention should be a last resort and then only when it is reasonable to assume serious harm is iminent.(someone saying they’re about to commit suicide/murder for instance) In the other instances I believe we should give the best advice we can and then trust the people actually in the situation to be able to take care of themselves. We have no responsibility either way and to act on the tiny sliver of info we have, unless the circumstances are dire, is incredibly presumptous and would most likely result in more harm than good.
Point the first. Thinking about something which, if acted upon, would be a despicible act of assholery does not, IMHO, make someone definitively an ass. This relationship could have gone on for years with him having these desires and it would have made virtually no difference. If he began to act on these thoughts then I would tend to trust the woman in question to be able to deal with him herself. How many people do you think have fantasies for some supermodel/sports star and would, if they could, do a swap for their SO for that person? Even if they start planning such a swap, the virtual impossibility of actually accomplishing it will probably kill it before the plan is anywhere near implementation. As I mentioned earlier, I trust the woman to be able to tell when the man is starting to mess around and to tailor her response accordingly. Nowhere in this scenario is the need for a bunch of busybodies from an internet message board.
Point the second. The goons on SA could not possibly be in a position to determine if this relationship would be better off severed based on this one factoid.
Point the third. I find it eminently plausible, perhaps even probable, that they WERE in fact trying to hurt him. c.f. claims that this kind of stuff happens reasonably frequently at SA. At the very least I wouldn’t put it past them.
Enjoy,
Steven