Yeah. Here’s what you do: “Hey, are your beignets made from choux paste? Great, I’ll have five,” or whatever. Jesus Christ on a popsicle stick, that takes like five seconds (ten if the wait staff doesn’t know what “choux” is, and you have to say, “Never mind, actually, could I have a hot dog instead?”)
Look, I’ve had a similar experience. When I was younger and roadtripping, I got a craving for maple syrup, so I went to a pancake restaurant outside of Yellowstone and asked the waitress, “Do you have maple syrup for the pancakes?” When she told me yes, I ordered some, and was given Log Cabin syrup with them. I complained, and the waitress glared at me and said, “Nobody has actual maple syrup around here.”
So I gave a shitty tip, because it was like 90% her fault. If you think “maple syrup” just means “pancake syrup,” then that’s an insane question for a customer to ask at a pancake restaurant, and you should try to clarify the request.
But it was 10% my fault. So I went on the Internet and complained, trying to get the entire rest of the goddamned world to stop using “maple syrup” to refer to Log Cabin syrup.
Oh, wait, no I didn’t. Next time I wanted maple syrup, I said, “Hey, with your pancakes, do you have any real actual maple syrup, not like Log Cabin?” When I found a restaurant that said yes, I ordered pancakes and got delicious maple syrup.
The thing is, I know how to communicate. I know how language works. It does no good to think that common parlance is built by experts, to think that people can be scolded into speaking a particular way. Rather, a competent speaker of a language pays attention to how other speakers use and understand words and adapts accordingly.