I don’t mean to pit these people since they are actually nice people, but nonetheless…
My friend/neighbor and her boyfriend invite me out to dinner. It was basically a nice evening, except they kept making out throughout the evening! I don’t expect them to sit apart the whole evening and I don’t care if they occasionally kiss or if they hold hands. But they would stop talking every ten minutes to start going at it like two cats. Plus, every time one of them would get up to use the washroom or go for a cigarette, they’d kiss like two lovers on the train platform before one of them goes on a long dangerous journey! Meanwhile I’m just sitting there twiddling my thumbs. It’s nice of them to invite me, but still. …
Boy, talk about awkward! I know how you feel; its always hard when you are around a couple that is really close like that and you are alone, its almost like forced-voyeurism because you’re right in front of them while they’re sucking face but you feel like it would be rude to just suddenly bug out.
Very true, although bug out is what I ended up doing. They probably wouldn’t notice my rudeness anyway. In high school this would happen a lot. I think at that age everyone is so insecure that they feel a need to demonstrate everything to the rafters. But these people are in their late 30s!
I’ve been in that situation before, and I can agree that it makes one feel ackwards. However, in my specific case, a lot of it has been the feeling that they’d be happier were I not there at all, so they could have some time to themselves.
Moreover, it makes me feel jealous as I don’t have someone to do that sort of thing with.
They want to include you, which is cool. They feel bad about going out on dates while you are home. So they try to create a group thing, which group consists of you and them, so the kissing starts.
Best advice is to decline the invitation and find a tactful way to explain the above.
