A lot of these things are just statistically more likely given common socioeconomic and cultural backgrounds, and certain social preferences.
I wouldn’t reject someone with a different skin color than me, but I’m much more likely to meet people with similar skin color because of where I live, work, and socialize.
I’m more likely to meet people who are about as thin or fat as I am due to the activities I engage in. When I spend a lot of time dancing and cycling, I tend to meet thinner people, and to be thinner myself. When I spend it watching movies and playing card games, I tend to meet fatter people, and be fatter myself.
Sometimes the resemblance is uncanny. I do have an acquaintance whose girlfriend could easily pass for his sister. The both have light skin, red hair, a similar build and very similar facial structure. They’re also both very attractive. If I were that attractive, I’d probably look for someone who looked like me too.
It seems to me that many people subconsciously find people who have similar physical characteristics to themselves. Whether it’s because they find those attributes attractive because it reminds them of their parent, or just because they subconsciously find those traits comfortably familiar, I don’t know. But I often see couples who have similar facial characteristics. And as they get older, sometimes it becomes more pronounced. It could be that they notice each other in the first place because something about them seems familiar.
Another doper and I dated for a couple of years. We looked similar enough that people often confused us for brother and sister. More than one time I have kissed her right in front of them and then said, “So?”
My ex-husband and I looked alot alike. He was taller and thinner, but we both had dark, almost black hair and dark brown eyes and wore glasses. Used to get alot that we looked like brother and sister…he was mostly Irish with a little bit of Choctaw Indian…I am Irish, Italian, Bohemian-Czech, and German…(with the possibility of Spanish or Portuguese thrown in because my Grandmother Eva was born in southern Ireland)…
I remember reading a catty comment speculating that Mick hooked up with Bianca because it was the closest he could get to having sex with himself, which is what he REALLY wanted.
I’ve never know anyone who consciously dates people who look like them, except, I guess, for some slim white lesbians with shaved/almost shaved heads dating several others who looked the same. That’s kinda a tribal thing, ISTM, and it could also just be coincidence because that look is not exactly unusual.
I saw a TV programme years ago that was about the phenomenon of couples looking more like each other as they age (and more like each other than other random people of their age); it seems to be quite common, though the causes aren’t agreed on. I found one link among several on a similar topic.
The programme was about the woman who played Jane in Waiting For God and her husband, who had initially looked pretty unalike apart from both having brown hair, and over the years came to look very similar indeed. The photo montage was like that picture that is Albert Einstein or Marilyn Monroe depending on how far you are from the screen.
My guy has short blond hair, light skin and wears glasses. I do as well. It was very handy when he was in the hospital because everyone thought I was a family member. I can’t wear his pants, but he can’t get into my panties
The differences you describe yourself as preferring are so negligible in the grand scheme of things
In other words, a guy only attracted to horses could wonder the same thing about you,
Or " I like to fuck women whose dna is 99.999994% the same as mine, but can’t understand what makes other people like those with a 99.999995% match"
If you skin back their hair, Gillian Welch and David Rawlings look a lot alike. Finally married, they’ve been a touring duet for a long time.
I’ve noticed that a lot of couples have at least one feature in common: their mouths (especially the length of that space between the nose and mouth), their eyes, their noses. I think we’re drawn to the familiar, with a twist.
Being fat, I prefer to date fat people. I get irritated by guys who spend more time working out and primping for dates than I do. And whether or not this is rational, I don’t want to be seen as the stereotypical “fat chick dating a skinny chubby-chaser.” I’d rather date a person who knows what it’s like to be fat. I think in the long run, I’m more likely to stay happy with another fat person. I worry subconsciously that eventually, a skinny guy would break up with me unless I lost weight.
I also have blue eyes and brunette-ish hair, and prefer guys with blue eyes and dark hair. Blue is my favorite color, and although I dunno why I don’t like blonde guys as much as brunettes, I just don’t. Maybe it’s a contrast thing. I really like the contrast of dark body hair on lighter skin.
I will say this, though. I’m white, and I’ve dated mostly white guys all my life. But after dating one brown person (half-Filipino/half-Mexican), I think I prefer brown guys to white ones. So that’s one aspect that kinda sticks out as “different” for me, recently.
As far as feeling like someone I’m dating is a member of my family, I don’t have to worry about that. My boyfriend couldn’t look like my brother, because I don’t have any brothers.
